Understanding The Dark Triad – Q&A (Part 1)

I initially wanted to answer all your questions in one article. However, I received so many questions worthy of a detailed response that it appears I will need to split the Q&A up into 2, 3 perhaps even 4 parts in order to do your questions the justice they deserve. If you don’t see your question answered, it will likely, (assuming it made the cut) follow in one of the subsequent parts.

If you haven’t read them already, utilising psychopathy and utilising machiavellianism are required reading before you begin reading through this piece, so if you haven’t read those articles, go and read them. Both articles outline fundamental background knowledge on the nature of the dark triad archetype. Without the background knowledge one would acquire from a reading of these predecessor articles, a full capacity to appreciate the questions asked and answers given in this one cannot be assured. That aside, let us begin.

“Are there any videos (movies, documentaries or anything of the sort) that you would recommend to give a more clear-cut example of Dark Triad behaviour?”

To my knowledge, few good documentaries exist on “dark triad behaviour.” I saw an English-made documentary called “Psychopath Night” which was, somewhat enjoyable, but unfortunately tamed in its tone by a rather poor choice to do a “movie countdown” of their favourite blockbuster psychopaths. This superfluous addition to the documentary gave it a less serious feel and more of a “cheap entertainment” feel. Interestingly in spite of that there is some input from Professor Kevin Dutton of Oxford University, author of “Wisdom of the Psychopaths.” I haven’t read his book so unfortunately I cannot give my opinion on it quite yet, but if I do get my hands on it, be assured I’ll do a book review or something similar.

As for media examples, there are countless, and I’m not a media junkie so there will be plenty of examples I have missed (and feel free to give your own in the comments), but off the top off my head, Leonardo Di Caprio’s character “Jordan Belfort” in “The Wolf of Wall Street“, “Marlo” from “The Wire,” and “Omar” from “The Wire” are good examples. In general, “The Wire” is an exceedingly good television series to watch if you want to be exposed to a plethora of dark triad characters. It even has a dark triad woman in it called Snoop, but as she’s a butch lesbian in the real world she has a masculine demeanour and isn’t a very good example of the typical dark triad woman. The typical dark triad woman is more akin to what I outlined in Lucifer’s Daughter. Snoop, simply put, is a certain flavour of dark triad woman. A dark triad woman with a masculine gender identity. In “The Originals” the character “Klaus Mikaelson” is a full-blown psychopath of incredible charisma. By what would appear to someone who is unacquainted with the dark triad to be some kind of “ironic perversion,” the comments section in the video linked for Klaus is full of women uncontrollably swooning over his psychopathy. Click on “Klaus Mikaelson” above and scroll down to the comments, some are quite eye-opening. Specifically those about “how sexy his threats are.” Finally, who of course could forget Hannibal Lecter in “Silence of the Lambs,” the archetypal stereotypically cliché cold psychopath. Dark triad characters comes in many brands and colours. Whether they are criminal, corporate, violent, cold or charismatic, they are usually very intelligent people, and the media is rife with different variations upon the same theme to accommodate this.

“Have you considered the macro societal result for when becoming a dark triad psychopath becomes the norm for getting pussy? Are you a traditionalist after meditating on the matters?”

The “macro societal result” has been in play for a very long time, gaining momentum since the institutionalisation of feminism. Perhaps not under the umbrella of men “embracing and internalising the dark triad” but in the semantic context of “men trying to be crueller, and more assholish” as a response to “independent women.”

Why do men have this desire to become bigger and bigger assholes, perhaps even psychopathic one might ask? Why do people come to Illimitable Men predominantly to read about the dark triad? It is my contention that the desire behind this motive is a matter of ensuring sexual prosperity via deviancy. Men want to “become assholes” in order to seem more attractive to women, as well as protect themselves from predatory women who may have exploited them in the past. Men have, as a collective consciousness, been making a shift towards crueller, less empathetic behaviour due to the social conditioning that women effectively perpetuate for quite some time. Simply put, men are predominantly influenced by their libido, and will go to extreme lengths to ensure they ascertain regular sexual access. Effectively, embracing the dark triad seems like the answer to many a man’s problems. Sex being the primary, although not sole motive for such a decision-making process.

It is due to women punishing “good” men and rewarding “evil” men that “good” men want to become “evil.” When there is a disincentive to be moral, people will be immoral, and men are no exception. This of course is neither desirable nor sustainable from a macro-societal perspective. Society and civilization by extension are built on the backs of hard-working, noble, honourable men who show selflessness and respect to men and women alike. The type of man most would characterise as “good.” Unfortunately in the age of feminism where women have de facto social power, and a man of a gentler disposition has no social or legal backing to aid him in suppressing the disloyal hypergamous promiscuity of female sexuality, the traditional man is going extinct in favour of the modern, calculating playboy. Women bemoan the fall of chivalry with their words, whilst behaviourally rewarding those (sexually) who do not adhere to it by the truck ton. To men, what women say is irrelevant, but how quickly, enthusiastically and often a woman will open her legs (for him) isn’t. For the aspiring playboy or bachelor, woman’s words are worth little, but their actions are everything. What works, works. When you ignore morality for the sake of self-interest, the dark triad is incredibly alluring.

Men of gentle demeanour are punished for their kindness in a way that contorts them intrinsically at the most basic of levels. It’s the common woman’s inability to differentiate kindness from weakness which perpetuates man’s move towards a darker disposition. This is what we’re seeing in scientific terms, highly focused sexual selection. As women have a propensity to reward men who demonstrate dark triad traits enthusiastic sexual access, natural selection is pushing men to become more “assholish” or “evil” as a result. Woman’s primitive attraction triggers, free of the sexual controls imposed by traditionalist Christian social norms and values are the major catalyst for the collapse of contemporary western civilization. A significant contributing factor to the collapse being the ensuing destruction of the nuclear family which modern women’s sexual and marital choices result in. I surmise a return to traditionalist practices are what’s best for the health and prosperity of western civilization. Contemporarily for a man however, the traditionalist male social role is incompatible with feminist society and as such, men are better served by the red pill philosophy and by extension of that, embracing the dark triad as a valid sexual strategy.

“Do you believe it is entirely possible to learn being Dark Triad?”

I believe it is possible, although highly unlikely that many men reading this material will “learn to be fully dark triad” unless he is already predisposed to such behaviour. However, with some study, trial, and error, a man can make significant progress, coming to possess 2 out of the 3 dark triad qualities, those being narcissism and machiavellianism. Psychopathy is simply not an obtainable state of being for the average male. Anything short of an extremely traumatic life event (abuse, witnessing heinous acts of brutality after doing a tour in the military, being locked up in a nefarious prison and etc) will for better or worse, not result in the acquisition of psychopathy. “Learnt psychopathy” is a coping mechanism, rather than a genetic accident which befalls those born with such neurology. That being said, the ingestion of high purity cocaine can temporarily induce dark triad traits to a clinical extent within the average male. Cocaine in a way, acts as a chemical facilitator for psychopathy by inducing fearlessness through the removal of anxiety, alongside a simultaneous state of exuberant narcissistic confidence. It is fearlessness and the absence of empathy (sympathy) which best characterises the core of psychopathy. Alcohol, to a markedly lesser extent, serves the same purpose, hence it’s reputation as being a form of “social lubricant.”

“If yes, how would that be done. If no, how would you at least come closer?”

Anything short of what I described in my answer to the previous question, with mere cocaine consumption being the least fucked up life changing event listed, will not result in the acquisition of psychopathy. Even then, cocaine works temporarily by inebriating you, it doesn’t rewire your brain permanently to make you psychopathic. So how does one become closer? I mention the practice of stoicism alongside a cultivation of the ability to cold-read in “utilising psychopathy.” That aside narcissism and machiavellianism are fully obtainable traits of the triad as they are considered “socialised maladaptive traits.” Machiavellianism is the strategic and manipulative nature of the dark triad male, the “moves” and tactics he utilises in his social strategy to ensure dominance and success. Likewise, machiavellianism is used by average people to a more diminished capacity than is prevalent in the dark triad individual. The most contemporarily relevant, astute and well-compiled book on the subject matter is undoubtedly, The 48 Laws of Power. The book is without a shadow of a doubt, the most necessary read for the budding Machiavellian and is well-deserving of its best-seller status. Learn the strategies from within the 48 Laws of Power and toy with their execution in your life to develop a grasp for how to vocationally utilise the strategies taught in the book. Getting the theory down and understanding it in your head is primary, but becomes fundamentally useless if you lack the ability to execute. Knowing what skills are required and how to execute the strategies listed in the book is what will allow you to see immediate gains within your life.

Machiavellianism is not just an academic field of study, but likewise, a vocational art. To the budding machiavellian, the theory comes before the vocation. To the natural, the theory confirms and augments the vocation. Mastering or at least refining your execution will allow you to acquire a more intimate and refined understanding of machiavellianism by giving you a frame of reference to relate to the strategies within the book. Like anything, theory and learning are only half the equation, they must be tried and tested by action and experience. There is only so much theory and “how to” you can read on here. You must go out into the world and practice the methods for yourself. Understanding something and being able to do something are two very different things. The manosphere and I cannot do that for you. Supplementarily, but with less importance than the The 48 Laws of Power, The 33 Strategies of War, also by author Robert Greene, is a necessary read.

Narcissism manifests in different ways despite how it is cultivated (as a maladaptive social trait caused by parental neglect), the effect of becoming drunk on power/success, the effect of being told all your life that you are great in some capacity and believing it, or merely the will to repeatedly tell yourself that you are somehow special or superior to others. Narcissism, really, is a cycle. It begins as one huge bluff, that overtime, becomes so externally validated that it is actually “believed into existence.” What began as a lie in the form of a bluff takes on a life of its own, believed in and likewise validated by the minds of others. You could for example argue religion is not real, but to those who devoutly believe in it, it is very real. To an extent, whatever is believed in, regardless of its actual legitimacy, becomes real by having life breathed into it. Belief can disregard rationality and legitimacy to make the unreal, real. This is why “fake it ’till you make it” works. If you believe long enough that you are something you are not and communicate this falsehood to others, they too will begin to believe you are something you are not. Then, validated by other’s opinions you begin to further believe you are the identity formed from a set of expectations that other’s hold for you. In turn you live out a self-fulfilling prophecy because external sources reinforce an idea of “you” that is pleasurable for you to adhere to. EG: you’re not “a player” but you convince women you’re “a player” and subsequently they keep calling you “a player” as a result. Eventually you believe you are a player due to the repetitive inculcation of their opinions, causing you to identify internally as “a player.” As a result you take on the characteristics of “a player”, actually becoming “a player” and thus the self-fulfilling prophecy is complete.

If you wish to become narcissistic, delude yourself into high self-appraisal and/or get good at something and harvest all the compliments and dick sucking that comes your way whilst ignoring all the negative feedback you get. Repeat things that aren’t true about yourself to others until they hold specific beliefs about you and then you can use those people as external validators who will regurgitate your idealised self-belief back at you. Cut people out of your life who make you feel shitty whilst introducing and keeping people around who make you feel good about yourself.

The final point on narcissism is the importance of time. Busy people are more narcissistic than those who aren’t busy. Busy people feel more important and thus by extension value any spare time they have more than those who perceive themselves to have an abundance of time. Busy people see you as taking the little bit of time they have left for themselves and so place a higher value on their time. Bored people see you as doing them a favour by filling in their personal void and thus welcome the consumption of their time. Formulaically speaking, an abundance of time equals a scarcity of narcissism whilst a scarcity of time equals an abundance of narcissism. Time available and sense of self-importance are directly proportional independent of belief systems. Basically the budding narcissist tries to keep busy, creating scarcity socially by limiting their availability whilst collecting people to feed the ego. This feeds the “narcissistic supply” and subsequently the cycle is maintained by carefully managing social networks. The narcissist cannot allow himself to be too open-minded to views which will harm his self-perception, and so in the management of his social networks he avoids jobs, behaviours and people who will cause him to, in his own eyes, demean himself. This is verbalised as a refusal to do things or associate with those who he recognises as “beneath him” (a threat to his ego.)

Concluding Part 1 – Closing Thoughts:

I have purposely skimmed over the topic of narcissism and not gone into too much depth on my explanation of it as I am saving the bulk of my thoughts on narcissism for the yet to be released “utilising narcissism” article. As you can surely understand, I don’t want to reveal too much about my thoughts on narcissism ahead of writing a dedicated piece on the topic. Don’t get too caught up on that, as part 2 of this Q&A is up next.

The Three R’s: Romanticisation, Realisation & Responsibility

The red pill community and more generally speaking the manosphere have something of a love-hate relationship with women. I don’t love women as a collective, but seeing them for what they are to the bare bones I have learnt to accept them. In the rare instances they occur I can appreciate the minority of well-raised women that’ll contribute positively to my life. I can see how men are idealistic romantics that need/crave a woman in their life to “have a kind of connection they can’t have with another man,” but by the by, women are nothing to be lauded or worshipped. Western women in general are just shitty people. Red pill men have all the reason in the world to hate women when it’s made painfully clear how they operate and how much bullshit they manage to get away with. As unpopular as that notion is, it is far from unjustified. Being hateful however is merely cathartic, not constructive. Long-term catharsis is a sign that you are stuck in the bitter phase in your understanding of women, rather than progressing onward to accepting their limitations whilst simultaneously self-actualising.

Being continuously angry will not help you improve yourself. For the sake of your own mental health, you have to look past the flaws of modern women by being extremely selective with which ones you’ll reward with relational commitment. Ultimately, you must employ RP strategies to hold frame and maintain dominance with women who do manage to make the grade. It is in this way that you can learn to enjoy their positive attributes whilst mitigating their negatives, and if necessary subsequently drop them like hot shit when they cross the line. Which of course many, if not almost all, will at some point.

Imposing your boundaries is imperative. If you catch a woman young enough and she is merely uncultivated, as in lacking depth and desirable non-sexual traits – rather than the alternative, which is the complete and utter corruption of the psyche caused by the fucked-up feminist culture we live in – then you may just have a shot to make such a woman into what you want her to be. How is this accomplished? By training her to be someone that’s likeable rather than just fuckable, otherwise known as “long-term relationship game with an aspiring red pill woman.” Even so, not every man is willing to take a woman on as a full-time project alongside his own self-development. A woman who has taken the initiative to make herself worth a damn regardless of the value of her pussy is vastly superior to one who hasn’t; she didn’t need a man to take up the reins of father figure and teach her how to be a good woman, an effort which involves fighting her every step of the way on each and every detrimental habit she’s acquired over the years.

There is, however, a phenomenon I have noticed with a number of veteran red pillers: the total inverse of bitterness. The proud proclamation that in spite of the volume of knowledge and wisdom they have amassed on women, they have come to “love women.” Accepting women for who they are and managing them, adjusting your management style to complement their individual quirks is one thing; loving them as a collective just for being women is something completely different. An appreciation of the feminine form is a refined predilection that all men possess, but allowing this to take hold as “love” is futile. If taking the lens of political correctness off women to see them for who they are has caused you to “love them” in spite of the perversity that is the modern state of femininity, something is definitely wrong with you. Just how shitty do women need to be for you to not “love them?” Or are you going to be a hopeless romantic no matter how low the bar is set?

When I hear a “red pill” man say “I love women!” (plural) rather than a particular woman, it strikes me with all the familiarity of Stockholm syndrome delusions. It’s almost as if there is a desperate urge to love women as a collective in such a man (an irrational ideal), rather than simply to love a specific woman where conditions permit. Stockholm syndrome is defined as the desperate need to love someone in spite of their abusive nature. With some “red pill” men in the acceptance stage (and blue/purple pill men) this concept is applied to women as an ambiguous collective rather than any one particular individual. It goes something like this: you so badly want to see the best in modern women and crave to be in love so much that you’ll consume yourself in the self-accountability that the quest for masculinity and self-improvement has taught you. Then in your romanticism, naively project your new-found sense of hyper-responsibility into your relationships with women.

Your only inherent responsibility is how well you objectively govern, not any affront to your governance. If you lead well but she fails to follow, that’s not your fault. It is implied that a good leader will not lose influence over their subordinates, but that is not necessarily so. If someone thinks there are better alternatives than you or is simply delusional, they will leave or otherwise rebel against you. In your endeavour to embody all things masculine, placate your ego to realise that you cannot control everything. You can merely stack the deck in your favour. It’s as simple as that.

I’ll give you an example: say you manage a company and despite meeting all your quotas and ensuring the staff are looked after and have their grievances met, one member of staff persists in disliking you. Is it your fault that this particular member of staff doesn’t like you? Are you going to blame yourself for not having read “How to Win Friends and Influence People“? Or is this person simply influenced by extraneous factors outside of your control? You wouldn’t blame yourself when one of your employees disliked you despite great leadership, so why blame yourself when things fuck up with your woman after you played your cards right?

Men in love lose cognitive clarity: even the most masculine of men burdened by the responsibility of romantic leadership blames himself for any mishaps that occur whilst the woman is all too happy to kick back and agree. Romanticism seems to profoundly cloud otherwise lucid reasoning within men. This is the delusion I see with some of the guys in the acceptance stage: all-encompassing hyperagency, rather than holding women to account for their shortcomings. This is a blue pill error that even the most seasoned masculine man will make, and it is something that will come to kick you in the ass with the precedent that “always taking the blame” sets.

The feminine imperative combined with masculine pride has convinced even the most red pill of men to take the blame for all manner of things in spite of the irrationality of such a policy, and it’s pathetic. For your own happiness and sanity you should learn to accept women for who they are, but realise they possess far more negative qualities than they do positive. Women are an unending source of drama, they are a lot of hassle, and they need constant management. It is for this reason we refer to women as “the most responsible teenager in the house.” When you romanticise them in any way that deviates from reality you’re adding tinges of blue into your view of women. To love them, worship them, or even prefer spending time with them over men despite having read a lot of manosphere material, is not red pill at all, but really, a purple pill mindset that’s gone full circle.

To elaborate, it looks a little something like this: you began as an average uninformed guy, you were blue pill in your beliefs because you were ignorant and had no success with women. Then you 180’d to being red pill but bitter, angry or otherwise indifferent but well-informed about the nature of women. After employing some asshole game, you had some success with women and got yourself a relationship. She then managed to wear you down and begin to betafy you over time, and as a result you’ve 180’d again into a purple pill hybrid. You have red pill knowledge but you find it easier to give your chick free passes and blame yourself for her misbehaviour rather than put your foot down. You confuse leadership with being a hegemonic scapegoat. You’re the wilfully ignorant guy blaming yourself for any mistakes that occur because you believe women have no agency and merely reflect how you’ve made them feel. You don’t hold her accountable because you believe that by being the leader everything automatically becomes your fault. This is hyperagency.

For those who don’t know what hyperagency is, it is the male tendency to assume responsibility/fault for things that weren’t directly the man’s fault, but through some indirect slippery slope reasoning can be convincingly rationalised as being his fault. Men who have taken the red pill and gone down the path of accentuating their masculine qualities to then successfully land themselves a relationship tend to be hyperagents, whilst plate spinners are more likely to throw caution to the wind. Hyperagency is the inverse to the feminine hypoagent instinct, which you guessed it, is the predilection of women to divert responsibility for their actions away from themselves. She will take credit where it is due, but where fault is to be allocated her instinct is to blame shift and shirk accountability. Being accountable to yourself and acquiring discipline and honour to keep yourself on track in the quest for masculine self-improvement is fine. Holding yourself accountable for a woman’s fuck-ups, however, is as blue pill as putting them on a pedestal. It implies they are better than you are because they are beyond the realm of fallibility. Yes, you can influence a woman’s behaviour greatly, any masculine man can, but assuming all responsibility when anything goes wrong is irrational and just plays into the narrative of the feminine imperative – the innate Machiavellian tendency women possess to absolve themselves of blame. If accountability is important to you then blame is attributed where it is due. Logic will best deduce where blame should be attributed. Treating yourself as a catch-all for anything that goes wrong is not the answer and it doesn’t make you “a real man” or “a proud man”; it makes you an honourable idiot.

Ultimately as men I think we’re fighting our instincts. Our instincts are to romanticise women, care for them, provide for and protect them, seeking sexual favours in return to pass on our genes, whilst our culture has made our instincts deadly to our own survival. All of this is exacerbated by cultural Marxist indoctrination which makes us ripe pickings for women who have been trained to be less empathetic, more narcissistic and more predatory towards men. Women are manageable when their egos are kept in check (this is why negging works) but, allowed to get high on “you go girl!” instant validation streams for the tiniest and most asinine of things (such as a selfie), they become increasingly self-centred and unmanageable. Combine men’s predisposition to romanticise women with women’s Machiavellian nature and what we have is a disaster waiting to happen: a culture that brainwashes men to give in to their romantic instincts whilst dissecting and supplanting their masculinity with feminine sensibilities. These sensibilities then get mixed in with the male protector/provider instinct (masculine romanticism) in such a way as to make them hard to tell apart from one another. In part, this is why guys sometimes pathetically bicker over what “being alpha” is, especially in relation to women and long-term relationships which are no doubt the trickiest sphere for any man, let alone a seasoned red piller or manospherian.

Feminism, as institutionalised as it is in society, is responsible for exacerbating female narcissism. It encourages women collectively to celebrate and exemplify their worst traits (hypergamy/entitlement and solipsism) in order to make us collectively (as men) responsible for their material betterment, training them to hang us out to dry rather than learn to appreciate us and work with us despite our differences. Part of the facilitation of this conditioning is to create conditions in which women can’t love, trust or pair bond to any one single man. This is accomplished by encouraging them to be “sex-positive” aka huge sluts. It is a well-established maxim throughout the manosphere that the more partners a woman has had, the less capable she is of bonding romantically to any future partner. This is great if you want casual sex but it’s bad if you actually want to be in love/start a family. A woman who’s had many dicks and relationships no matter what she rationalises or desires is near incapable of pair bonding. These women are often bitter, they feel owed something from their chain of suitors as a symptom of their latent narcissism and view men collectively as an arbitrary segment of the population that can be exploited for self-gain as a result. All of this only makes the conscious choice to “love women” as a collective even more insane.

Without a patriarchal society in place to enforce honour on women, our freedom to love women is diminished because they have the ability to destroy us and get away with it. Allowing yourself to love a woman should not mean tussling with the Devil. Due to the vast chasms that separate masculine and feminine nature, equalism fails in matters of love. This is predominantly caused by three things: 1) femininity’s lack of reason; 2) femininity’s lack of honour; 3) perhaps most importantly: the ability of the female mind to so easily rationalise away atrocities as necessary for its emotional well-being, and therefore, perfectly acceptable. This is what is known colloquially as “hamstering” and it ties in with the earlier point made about the feminine predilection to absolve herself of blame in order to avoid cognitive dissonance. This instinct is so strong that it will even override the decision-making process of women that otherwise possess strong logic.

By making them our legal and social equals without their being our rational and ethical equals, we have upset the balance between leader and follower, captain and first mate, and left ourselves susceptible to their whims. What has this done? Destabilised society, leading to massive increases in divorce rates, the ensuing post-divorce suicide of what was previously a husband, and a whole bunch of other fucked up crazy shit that no attractive woman’s sweet voice, long hair and gentle touch is worth. For all the flak they get, the “men going their own way” are in some ways the rational ones here: they’re rational in pursuing their own happiness, but irrational evolutionarily as they implement the destruction of their ancestral genetic line. If there was ever a war between nature and nurture, this is it, and it’s socially engineered human reproductive kryptonite.

Update: This article has been revised for grammatical refinement and has been updated as of 26/08/2014 to reflect the implemented changes.

Women & The Death of Femininity

Hardened men make for attractive men, for toughness is a trait that men and women alike covet in their fellow-man, almost everybody respects a tough man (even when they dislike him) whilst hardened women make for some utterly repulsive beings that do not inspire the same kind of response in their peers, for you see it is the endurance of prolonged pain that is in its very nature a process of masculinisation.

Those who undergo pain become tougher and with toughness comes a certain masculine component, the more damaged and pain afflicted a person becomes, the more they harden and the tougher they become, this hardening is a natural response to ineptitude and disappointment, it is the catalyst for self-improvement where one’s survival is contingent on such improvement and thus forth the harder a person becomes, the more masculine the sum of their spirit becomes. This would even go so far to explain why in the psychological sense women have a propensity to value the ruggedness that experience brings in men, whilst men rather prefer the inexperience of women, for such a woman is free of the contamination of bitterness and cynicism that experience would wrought upon her, effectively spoiling the inherent fragility of her femininity.

In essence the more worn and experienced a woman becomes, the less feminine she becomes, whilst a more battle-scarred and experienced man becomes more masculine in the process. It is thus I must make an observation: it does indeed appear that men become more masculine with time and sufficient hardship, whilst antithetically, women, less feminine. It is in my estimation that men do not just prefer younger women for their more nubile bodies, but additionally, for their more feminine disposition. This perhaps also goes some way in explaining the feminine obsession with maturity, for a mature woman is one of less desirability than an immature one, whilst an immature man is of markedly less desirability than a mature one. What’s good for one is not good for the other and thus it is the nature of gender and by extension, biology itself to impose double standards upon the sexes.

This leads to my next point of estimation, I do believe that the fundamental reason the societies of the world have always tried so hard to protect and provide for their women in a manner of care that is all but absent in nature to their respective men is due to something of a matter of instinct which seeks to preserve the spiritual femininity of women, with an inherent understanding that the failure to protect women from the world and its evil would lead to the masculinisation of their disposition and thus rather tragically, the irrevocable loss of their femininity, for not enough new girls can be born and protected sufficiently from their older counterparts to replace the entire female demographic with women of femininity. It would seem that societies on some fundamental level have realised, perhaps not always in a way that they are conscious and eloquent enough to articulate, that femininity in and of itself carries a certain intrinsic value that is necessary for the sustenance and self-preservation of a society, and it is this value that is to be protected and sustained. These societies realised that subjecting women to the same kind of pressures that men are subject to would cause them to lose their femininity along the way, and such women would better benefit society by retaining their femininity rather than sacrificing it out of necessity in the emulation of man. For if society should forfeit femininity, demanding women fend for and coarsen themselves with the ugliness of survival, the very society reliant upon those who would maintain it would feel the tremors of emancipation as the feminine spirit is forcefully eviscerated from the societal psyche, leaving nothing but a collection of beings who strive to be manlike in its wake.

Without the counterbalance of gentle and demure femininity to complement the assertiveness of traditional masculinity, any affected society would foster detached apathy through competition within its citizenry rather than inclusive empathy through community.

Femininity is not just a gift to women, free of the shackles of responsibility that define manhood and the accompanying economic struggle that brings, but likewise a gift to men also, who would confide in and find emotional solace within the spirit of their lovers femininity, expressing momentary vulnerability to the softest of souls in a way that only a man in agape with a woman would dare. A woman who feels safe enough and looked after enough is feminine in the most natural and charming way, momentarily carefree as she “lets her guard down”, she is a happy woman, a sweet woman, a kind woman and perhaps most importantly to our humble species, an attractive woman. Rarely do women get to experience this type of innocence anymore as the forces of feminism masculinise them into perverse hybrids, women composed of the worst that femininity and all her flaws has to offer whilst likewise borrowing the very worst that masculinity has to offer, educated to never let their guard down “in the face of oppression”, be this evangel preached directly through activism or indirectly via the harshness of the workplace and the economic machine that it serves, today’s women face emancipation from femininity, like their fellow-men do from masculinity, sold a narrative that their inherent disposition is incompatible with the gender identity that the prevailing ideology would demand of and subscribe to them.

Just how can the feminine continue to exist within the modern world when it is psychologically beaten out of women on a day-to-day basis? How can women be kind, caring and sensitive when they must work in the world of business, a masculinising albeit sociopathic world of margins, deadlines, quotas, targets, bottom lines and politics? You see the workplace itself undermines the cultivation of femininity, the hardened woman is but a feeble caricature of the ideal man, should she be stripped of her femininity via the hallways of heartbreak, the glass table of the boardroom or perhaps an amalgamation of both, such a woman is a walking emanation of all the ugliest that masculinity has to offer and with none of its perks, for she learns the ugliest of masculinity along a pilgrimage for personal conquest rather than learn it in whole in the way that only a boy who seeks to become a man can. She does not learn the nuances of masculinity, its duty, its honour, it’s burden or it’s inherently biological need to protect and provide and thus forth and so such a woman imposes herself ruthlessly and demandingly, without thought nor care for those she imprints her apathy on, belittling the men she hates along the way with vapid deep-seated hatred, corrupting fellow women in her wake, imploring that they too sacrifice their femininity under the guise of “motherly advice” in the promotion that her younger counterparts become like that which she has become, a caricature of a man, a woman who emulates the worst of masculinity without embodying any of its finer or more nobler traits.

Such a woman is a parasite, wondering what value she can take from those around her rather than what value she can add, she is psychologically unlovable to the desires of man and yet some remnant of femininity remains, she craves to be loved despite the impossibility such a task proves to be. It’s hard to love a monster and men do not love monsters like women do, they loathe them, even fear them and in the most extreme of circumstances, they kill them. You see masculinisation affects women differently than it does men, within men it fosters growth and actualisation, within women it fosters contempt, dissonance and discontent, corrupting the very souls of who they are, stripping them of any desirability beyond the flesh, which too, will eventually fade with age.

Is there anything less feminine in the world than a ball-busting cynical parasite devoid of the charms and femininity that men the world over have come to admire and cherish in women for eons and eons? No, no there is not, and it is the crucifixion of femininity being perpetuated as an affront to masculinity within modern ideology, feminism containing the largest amount of estrogenic blood on its hands, that is unilaterally killing feminine spirituality in favour that we sacrifice it on the altar of corporatism in an effort to “equalise” the feminine with the masculine. What this really means it to condemn the true and natural feminine spirit as weak, to redefine it with masculine ideals, reinforce those ideals and then imprint those ideals onto society’s men and women until they believe this perverse form of femininity is “true femininity”, calling for the worship of this one brand of ideologically sanctioned femininity which remains to be nothing more than a corrupt bastardisation of the femininity that comes naturally to women who are free of Anglo social engineering efforts. What feminism has failed to realise is that although it has benefited many women superficially, it has done so at the cost of that which makes them truly women, that which makes them valuable to men beyond their bodies, the overlooked spiritual sense, the beauty that can be derived from their natural femininity. You see feminism spoils femininity in the name of equality, then the imbeciles who cause the damage are so incredibly ignorant (or incredibly intelligent, I cannot but tell the difference) as they seem to be at such a loss to understand just why men and women, but markedly women, are unhappier than they’ve ever been before.

I do think perhaps one of the most abhorrent things in the modern female psyche is that of scorn. Scorn is something I consider to be a truly fascinating state of being, you see scorn is a particular feminine flavour of revenge, it is effectively revenge on steroids with a feminine twist. Scorn is where the death of femininity within the soul of a woman rebirths itself vengefully in a manner of heightened sociopathy, such a woman bears the physical hallmarks of the feminine form, but to her very soul is ravaged by the most detestable, despicable and deplorable facets of both the masculine and the feminine. A scornful woman who derives her current state of being from the defining moment which initiated the destruction of her spirit’s femininity is a woman that is emulating the traits of man, straying from the path of womanhood and crossing into the realm of manhood, albeit such a woman will never truly be a man for she will lack the logic of a man, the appearance of man as well as the burden and societal expectation of a man, and so thus at best her bitterness leads to this type of quasi woman, a caricature of a man, embodying but the worst traits of both the masculine and the feminine, leaving us with what can only be described as a hollow, hybrid monstrosity that is neither man nor woman in the truest sense of the word irregardless of its physical anatomy.

You see unlike men who can become better, stronger and more attractive men by growing through their pain and thus amplifying their inherent masculine energy, women do not become better women with pain, they become more manlike, and thus they are stripped of that which makes them attractive to men to begin with. See what is good for man, at least in this instance, is not good for woman. When women become “hardened” it, rather poetically, and quite ironically in its majesty, strips them of the very thing that makes them attractive beyond the realm of the physical to men in the first place, it emancipates them from their femininity, and to ensure a man truly loves a woman, and simply doesn’t just view such a woman as a disposable fuck puppet at best or a blathering idiot at worst, she must capture his interest psychologically and emotionally, not just physically, because many women can capture the eye of a man, but only a woman of some real feminine energy and depth can capture the heart and thus devotion of a man. You see femininity, like masculinity, must be cultivated, although rather unlike masculinity it mustn’t be taught through pain, but through love.

Puppy love is the exception, it is the one love that can be educational to men, puppy love is the inevitable experiment in which naivety prevails, boys become men, and they learn first-hand through the misery of heartbreak and the cacophonous confusion of the indecisive female mind that the unilateral worship and adoration of the feminine form, the willingness to be captivated in the beauty of the feminine form be it from the sound of her voice, to the touch of the skin, or the smell of her sweat, is nothing but a futile and suicide-inducing endeavour. Men learn for themselves in their quest for masculinity that they must not worship women, but rather that, they must lead them. Women do not go on a quest for femininity, they are born with it, and oft sacrifice it short-sightedly for power within the depths of delusion that makes up modern groupthink, only to realise in old age once their beauty has faded that they traded in their greatest non-tangible asset long ago.

The Collapse & The Evolution of Awareness

What would happen if the red pill ever became a mainstream intellectual framework? In my estimation society would either a: collapse or b: a sizeable number of redpillers would evolve into neoreactionaries as they begin to analyse the entire system and implement change at the political and legal levels. Essentially the state of affairs would devolve into all-out ideological warfare with sex-positive feminism, the prevailing hegemonic ideology in the west as it stands. Modern day contemporary feminism is but a shadowy figure of doublespeak and doublethink which stands defiant and omnipotent in what is a post-religious collection of societies, succeeding the role of religion as both moral and social arbitrator, espousing it’s radicalist rhetoric through various imperative and declarative assertions in a hysterically hyperbolic manner such as: “thou shalt not rape!” , “thou may judge man, not woman” , “keeping a home is slavery!”, “you can have it all!” (if you’re a woman) among other such asinine and societally dysfunctional beliefs. 

Feminism as the dominant societal ideology in the hearts and minds of the citizenry is much like the religion of past society, to openly disagree with feminist beliefs and to a wider extent, politically correct egalitarian belief systems is the west’s modern day equivalent of blasphemy, because if you’re not with them the dichotomous nature of their indoctrination leads them to believe you must be against them, inevitably leading to career blacklisting, libellous defamation/vilification and the harshest of social exclusion from the proverbial herd. This is why anonymity permeates the redpill community, nobody is willing to lose their livelihood and ability to subsist due to the opinions they keep being held in the wrong era, whilst I’m on the topic here’s a relevant law of power you should observe. In the modern west to be perceived as feminist friendly is not an ideological choice that the citizenry are free to make, but rather a requirement of anyone wishing to progress or at least sustain themselves in the corporatism of modern capitalism, especially should they happen to be male. Failure to tow this line will have such a man’s repute eviscerated via the public declaration he is a hateful misogynist (allowing him to be placed in the position of oppressor and thus justifiably punished whilst ironically it is he who is actually being oppressed), much like the church would previously denounce their blasphemers as heretics, accusing their detractors of all kinds of crazy shit “this motherfucker casts magic, a child of satan!” the day’s modern feminists are mutually always in the market for a good witch hunt. It’s the same shaming mechanism and same ideological hegemony but with a different ideology, funny how that works.

The de facto hegemony of radicalised feminism alongside the decline of religion is one of the main proponents (although not the sole proponent) owing to the increase in amorality/immorality and the decline of a moral and honour-bound culture. Increasing apathy, isolation, anxiety, desensitization, depression, distrust and ultimately sociopathy among other dysfunctional and detrimental human behaviours are all symptoms of the feminist induced collapse of the traditional family unit complemented by an increasingly impersonal and globalising world. In essence, feminism alongside other social engineering efforts such as multiculturalism as well as wage deflation through mechanisation and its outsourcing via globalisation has transformed western societies from homogeneously high-trust to low-trust multicultural socially unintegrated melting pots. The decline of the Anglo-American and European social and moral fabric is not sustainable, and neither is the red pill’s way of “playing the system” as “the system” will eventually change/evolve/devolve or crash entirely. This is not a criticism of TRP as much as it is a reality of it, as a civilization we are in a constant state of flux, by the time you have your own grandkids (assuming you choose to continue your genetic line) the things you learnt on the red pill would need to be calibrated for the environment that your grandkids will find themselves in should you choose to pass on red pill knowledge to them. The most basic and rudimentary maxims will hold, but the methodology of their application will more than likely, not. For example Arthur Schopenhauer’s 19th century German philosophy on women, as well as concepts such as hypergamy and female sexual plurality will remain largely static, however how such things are exemplified and interpreted will depend upon the political climate (the level of power and relevance that feminism will hold in that timeframe as a social ideology), as well as the effects of technological leaps influencing how people interact and socialise with one another. 

For example, an alpha grandpa would have no concept of tinder (no computers/internet existed) and as feminism was weaker/less radicalised marriage to him wasn’t automatically deemed a high-risk, low-reward investment. TRP is ultimately a pragmatic and contemporary philosophy, if “the system” (the dominant ideology, social policy and politics of society were to change) then TRP will either cease to be (out of obsolescence) or change with the system proving itself as an intellectual framework that is adaptive rather than maladaptive, having its history archived on the internet in relation to the-then contemporary issues of the time. Being a philosophy born on the internet, it will leave a fully transparent data trail that will allow all who dig through the depths of the internet to see in its entirety how the philosophy has evolved and progressed in line with its adherents understandings and deductions, deductions that will eventually culminate in taking red pill insights in their present day form to their natural conclusions, accounting for any significant shift in the political and ideological makeup of society along the way. This effectively leaves the red pill wide open to scrutiny, and should it ever stray down an incoherent path it will be possible to see where it went wrong or what effectively corrupted the philosophy and allow for correction where deemed fit.

The seduction movement better known as PUA evolved independently of the Men’s Rights movement and it was the consolidation of both of these areas of thought that gave birth to TRP through the increase in self-awareness that their entanglement entails, essentially the “consolidation” was a process of connecting all the dots between PUA and men’s rights with the supplementation of self-improvement thrown in for good measure, amounting to a perspective that looked to be a superior improvement upon its predecessors. In a way, one could say it was an industrial revolution of ideological gender philosophy within the masculine vein of neoreaction, bringing many separate ideas together under one umbrella and interpreting them with an anti-feminist, pro-male, amoral slant to give pragmatically useful and rational understanding to a multitude of social issues that the common man faces in the face of a contemporary paradigm where such a man would not have any other effective alternative avenue for recourse. Prior to this consolidation and concentration of consciousness, PUAs had “woken up” (to a limited extent) by learning that society was fucked up in ways that were previously inconceivable to them, and perhaps hilariously (or quite worryingly) the reason they “woke up” was because they couldn’t get laid. With an almost even gender ratio the men that began to form the demography of the seduction movement began the movement thinking “getting laid shouldn’t be this difficult”, “how can I make getting laid a lifestyle or something easily performed?” many of them having followed the poor advice mainstream society gives on relationships “happy wife, happy life” “get a good education, get a career, be nice, provide, have kids” and yadda yadda yadda to no avail.

Despite the prevailing social condition that a society of feminine primacy had endorsed, men who took to the seduction movement did so because initially they had begun to feel not only awkward and out-of-place in their everyday interactions, but socially and even morally wronged, women seemed intangible, confusing, as well as socially and legally superior to them despite the so-called egalitarian social standing that each gender supposedly enjoys (courtesy of the bullshit that is the mainstream academic elite’s progressive narrative.) It was thus that men of various ages, nations and races began to simultaneously feel disenchanted and out-of-place with their existence, finding themselves both socially and sexually unfulfilled across the globe in societies that valued feminine primacy, in locales where feminism is a state endorsed ideology, men in significant numbers were struggling to find romantic happiness because their needs and wants were vilified, ignored and largely unconsidered by their cultures. Having a harder time than their female counterparts whilst being unable to place their finger on exactly what was wrong with themselves and the culture they lived in, they began to irk that something was off, they just didn’t know what that something was. Ultimately it was the consolidation of knowledge gained about women through the trial and error of pickup artistry (the relearning of knowledge that feminism had suppressed about women through political correctness) and the growing visibility of feminine primacy via the increasingly obnoxious voice of radical feminism not to mention the light shone on male legal subjugation by the men’s rights movement that culminated in the eventual birth of the red pill.

The next step after fully internalising and understanding TRP is to become a neoreactionary, that is, to understand the culture you live in and why it is how it is in a more complete form, not simply master the understanding of intersocial behaviours people in your culture exhibit within a sociosexual dynamic, but to effectively dispel all the idealistic politically correct lies that compose the crux of “the progressive narrative.” Unlike TRP/PUA which are overwhelmingly male dominated (with RPW and fPUA being minor, if somewhat far less notable offshoots), neoreaction is far less gender exclusive as it is a reaction to the state of contemporary western civilization as a whole and not simply the gender dynamics of society which albeit central, are not wholesome of the entire paradigm we find ourselves living in. Neoreaction spans many different areas of academic ideology pertaining to modern civilization of which it criticises are the cause of its decline. It runs across race lines, economic lines, political lines, religious lines, as well as gender lines.

As I said prior TRP is the masculine vein of neoreaction along a gender line, whilst the institutionalisation of feminism was the female reaction fifty years prior. The neo-neo reaction to TRP has quite ironically been the vocalisation for more radical feminism, with the radfems exposing the ugliness of their disposition by trying to silence TRP by declaring it (and petitioning the US government to declare it) a hate movement, whilst also trying to use TRP as something they can use to validate their sexist, bigoted and misandrist beliefs rather than acknowledge feminism and it’s radicalisation had begun long before TRP was even an anxiously horny glint in the eye of the first PUA. In essence, feminism tries to paint TRP as the boogeyman to try and give itself legitimacy as a competing victim narrative in a civilization where it is not only becoming increasingly obsolete, but one where the ruling “progressive narrative” ensures that the bigger the perceived victimhood is of a particular group in society, the more power, privilege and politically correct social capital they are given to abuse to the detriment of the collective whole.

Unfortunately, not everyone will make the complete journey along the road of PUA to TRP to neoreaction (most progress in this order through their journey of continuing and increasing awareness) as the further you go along, the steeper the intellectual incline becomes. That is to say the further you go along the path of rational and intellectual enlightenment and self-discovery, the more brain power you need to comprehend just what the hell is going on among the complex intricacies of the diverse modern social fabric. Due to its breadth and vast area of focus neoreaction is infinitely more complex and arguably far less pragmatically applicable than the red pill is and for that reason alone, alongside the intellectual bell curve required to try and comprehend its arguments, it will find itself being far less popular than the red pill, the red pill in a way serving as a sort of gateway into neoreaction once the most intellectual redpillers feel they fully understand TRP and seek more in-depth and profound understanding in areas outside the sphere of gender dynamics. Neoreaction is not a direct evolution of the red pill, but more of a complement in overall awareness to it, that is to say, neoreaction will not override TRP in relevance in the way that TRP has overridden PUA, but it will complement TRP by exposing the delusional nature of various mainstream narratives and systems of prevailing academic thought much in the way that TRP exposes the fallaciousness of modern sociosexual dynamics from the masculine perspective.

Metaphorically speaking if PUA were a country, TRP is a continent and neoreaction would be the entire planet. If you do not want to do anything but get laid, PUA is enough, if you want to explore your neighbours and build a better-rounded successful life you’re going to want TRP, if you want to traverse the world, and add an in-depth understanding of the various prevailing economic, political, religious and other miscellaneous associated narratives and agendas of our time then you’re going to want to add neoreaction to your arsenal of understanding. Ultimately it is TRP that will give you the power to act and behave and instigate change physically whilst neoreaction will further amplify your understanding of the world, in essence, neoreaction in the metaphorical sense is a “second red pill”, not everyone needs it, not everybody wants it (letting go of all one’s ignorance is incredibly toilsome and has a tendency to induce existential nihilism) whilst if you simply don’t care about your genetic line or the state of civilization but desire to merely live a good life whilst you have your time on this Earth then TRP should be more than enough for you. Neoreaction isn’t for everyone, not everyone is an intellectual or budding revolutionary and that’s fine, but for those that are, there are definitely dots to be connected between TRP and neoreaction and I invite all the more veteran redpillers “looking to find further understanding” to add /r/darkenlightenment to their list of subscribed subreddits.

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Single Mothers, Weak Fathers & The Suffering of “The Lost Boys”

This is not a self-improvement piece and neither is it endearing or particularly positive in substance, it is a harsh discernment of an unspoken social issue, the plight of today’s young men growing up in an ever feminising world, neglected, lonely, wrestling with their own delinquency to achieve agency over their faculty so that they may, out of an innate biological desire to be happy, become the epitome of that which is masculine. Typically I post theories and explore concepts that are useful and applicable to men whom seek the fruits of power and success irregardless of their social stature, however this post, a first for Illimitable Men, will take something of a different approach in its dissemination of everything wonderfully red and pharmaceutical in nature.

“Lost boys” is a term I use to describe the growing demographic of boys, young men and adult men, who by nature of the circumstance that is their upbringing actively struggle to thrive and achieve the masculine ideal. “Lost boys” typically lacked a definitive masculine presence growing up and so were raised by either a single mother, or very weak father that always yielded to the tyranny of their mother’s neuroticism. This has to many extents, irreparably damaged such men at a very fundamental level. The lost boys are an invisible minority, largely ignored and neglected by greater society because society doesn’t care about pain that isn’t visibly affecting women, even if somewhat ironically, it’s the same kind of pain that stops a boy from becoming a man and leads to the all indignant post-wall screeching of “where did all the good men go?!” What we have in the developed world is an unhealthy fixation with the neurosis of modern feminist dogma rather than a rational concern for the mental health of our young boys.

The lost boys have no voice and they dare not speak, for they do not expect anyone to care about their hardships or what they have to say. Speaking, for the little that its worth anyway, would thus be quite pointless. You are a boy, boys must be strong!” the bigots parrot in retort to a males exclamation of his struggles. The concepts of emotional sympathy and an extension of aid to boys and men suffering adversity are all but absent, their hardships are often met by a sociopathic nonchalant attitude at best and utterly contemptuous disgust for their weakness at worst. The lost boys understand indifference quite intimately, whilst comprehending little in matters of love, for they have never really been loved properly; at least not in a way that does not serve to only weaken them further, be that the maternal love of a coddling naive mother who knows not what constitutes masculinity, or the heartbreak caused by puppy love. Whether it’s clear to them or not, what they need is the strong unwavering hand of paternal love. It’s the delinquency caused by an absence of such love which cements a perverse condition of loneliness into these boys growing up, something is fundamentally missing, these boys are broken, they can’t seem to make their lives work, they struggle to find themselves, they know they’re the problem, but they don’t understand what to do about it.

Symptomatic of this piss poor parenting style that is the single mother “family unit” or the nuclear family with a beta father and female head of house, is a silent, solitary pain sweeping across the youth of mankind. The ever-increasing isolation of young men today is a social affliction endemic across developed societies, particularly in the Anglosphere. The isolation, feminisation, neglect and underachievement of young boys and men is a pronounced trend which has pierced the depths of child rearing ever since feminism toppled the institution of the nuclear family and caused broken homes to become the malign commonality that they are today. Then they have the cheek to inquire why girls outperform boys in higher education now as it stares them right in the fucking face, you deprived boys of their fathers, so they’re fucking up. When the nuclear family was the norm and women were neither quite so naive nor incentivised by a welfare system to raise a child alone, a young man’s likelihood of having a fruitful bond with his father was far more pronounced than it is today. The reason for this was because before feminism came to dictate the social narrative, having children out-of-wedlock was not a norm considered to be either acceptable nor desirable.

Comparatively today, the sons of single mothers are at the highest risk factors for social anxiety and behavioural disorders whilst possessing something of an inability to bond with the one parent they do have, in the way that they need to be able to do so to fundamentally grow as men, simply because, women cannot teach that which they do not possess: masculinity and the experience of living as male. Such sons are effectively inhibited by their mothers, burdened by the swinging pendulum of her emotionalism without having a father to handle her instability in their place (Hetherington, 1980; Cath, et al., 1989, Ross, 1984). This immutably puts a lot of extra pressure on the lost boys, growing up these boys require a father to perform this most imperative of functions, but with a father who is absent they are utterly deprived of such a luxury, and thus, must shoulder the full force of intense female emotionalism in all their innocence from a tender and impressionable age.

If even a fraction of the lost boys would be lucky enough to find http://reddit.com/r/theredpill and take on a self-improvement mindset, they would be immediately awash with regret from all the wasted time and lack of opportunity they experienced in their formative years. All those years wasted on being unsuccessful with women, excessively playing video games, having weak personal character and generally being too emotionally crippled to have meaningful friendships is a fuckfest of delinquency which rapes the shit out of a guy’s chances in life. Nobody talks about how boys are failing, nobody at all. However, despite the sordid indifference and neglect of society’s inclination to address such a fundamental social ill, it’s not as fringe and uncommon as perhaps some of society’s more privileged would like to imagine, “imagine” being the operative word there.

Why is society so apathetic to the plight of the lost boys? Well to aid these boys would be to politically undermine the hegemony of feminist thought and thus it is not part of the political or social imperative to address the insipid delinquency that permeates the demographic of men born to broken homes.

Chances at socialisation for the lost boys outside of the home were predominantly schooling and the workplace. Typically these institutions yielded little to no social reward for them, that is to say, because the lost boys were not high value individuals or taught proper social skills by their families, nobody ever really wanted to know them. Who cares about poor guys who aren’t good-looking, have no money and have no status to speak of? Nobody, and yet, this aptly describes the majority of men born into poverty with no sizeable family to provide them with the nurturing which is essential to flourish and actualise.

How do men in this situation typically go about getting some form of attention to try to break away from the shackles of their own personal hells? Most do not find TRP. Some become bold with a “I’ve got nothing to lose motherfucker” kind of mindset, they turn dark triad. They may sell drugs or get involved in gangs, they do anything that gives them money, respect, status and sex, things that in their circumstances they would be incapable of acquiring without breaking the law. Why? Because they were born where they were born to who they were born.

What about the lost boys who are too timid to take the dark triad route? They end up incubating their sadness within a cocoon of porn, video games and internet surfing in an attempt to effectively numb themselves from the dispassion of a painful and uninspiring existence. Such a lifestyle becomes a fixture for the suffering escapist, and thus the lack of everyday social interaction creates an irrational fear of socialising to a point that even leaving the house can become a big deal. Likewise, talking to people in shops and even stepping outside of the house can make them incredibly self-conscious. The lost boys have become so socialised by neglect that hermitism has become their modus operandi, they tend to suffer from acute social anxiety, which is just one of many ills that the degeneracy of their upbringing plagues them with. Quite the dichotomy it is, to fear loneliness whilst simultaneously fearing social interaction, this but a mere glimpse of  the personal hell a feminised lost boy must endure.

Escapism is a form of self-preservation for people who don’t know how to or simply aren’t brave enough to engage in self-improvement. When you have nothing, when you have nobody, stepping into the gym and lifting some weights around strangers is a big fucking deal, it takes a lot of courage, the lost boys are so neglected that their anxiety can become quite debilitating, they will actively stop themselves from pursuing self-improvement because they are irrationally fearful, thus perpetuating the cycle further and becoming their own biggest obstacles. Mentally imprisoned. Trapped.

The standards for masculinity are set so high by the feminine imperative, and the infrastructure to ascertain it for many men is all but absently null (ironically, due to the feminine imperative), it is thus no wonder that so many boys and men are incubating themselves from a dreary existence with porn, games and internet, giving up on the game of life and screaming fuck it all with their lack of active participation. If you’re isolated and the struggle is getting you down, one may as well make the confines of their psychological prison as comfortable as possible. It’s not that I advocate this lifestyle in any way, quite the contrary, but simply that I can understand perfectly well why it is as common as it is, to be succinct: its mental anaesthesia.

Relative to loneliness is preselection, preselection is something of an insane yet logical phenomenon, but inversely, so is the absence of it. A lack of preselection can form the basis of a lost boys ostracisation with both the same and opposite sex. Most people are close-minded and judgemental, they won’t even try to look past the superficialities to see if there’s anything likeable about you, if you’re not a high-flyer, a great deal of people are not even interested in sharing oxygen with you.“Everyone wants to be with a winner, if that’s not you and you’re a collective heap of problems stemming from the promiscuity of your mothers ovary then fuck you because nobody cares.” This is the subtextual message that society communicates to the lost boys. Friends are like money, they’re difficult to get when you don’t have a lot, but once you’re comfortably established getting more becomes effortlessly easy. Abundance is key.

In stark humility it is my advice that any “lost boy” who has managed to stumble upon this articles takes up as many hobbies as he can possibly afford and fills his timetable with them, obviously this should include joining a gym, I know if you’re feeling particularly low that is quite a scary thing to consider, but there are other activities can be enjoyed also, debating clubs, dance, martial arts, languages, instruments and essentially whatever it is that allows you to socialise and have some fun whilst gaining a skill that adds to your value. One step at a time is crucial; no epic journey is completed in a day. More information on making this kind of change in your life can be found here.

The lost boys are a huge reason the manosphere even exists. If these boys didn’t need male advice and father figures in a world where such is becoming increasingly rare, they wouldn’t look to the internet to find it and set up communities specifically based on this premise. A lot of it is guised under sexual strategy, but the problems run far deeper than that for many, sexual strategy is merely the veneer to the depths which the manosphere extends.

If you can relate, leave a comment and get it off your chest, nobody will confuse your pain for weakness here, likewise if you enjoyed my prose and haven’t already, do subscribe.