Monk mode is a self-improvement framework for improving one’s social market value within a short space of time. Many people fail with implementing self-improvement because they cannot overcome psychological hurdles and are easily distracted by bullshit around them. Monk mode is about mitigating distractions and focusing solely on self-betterment. Naturally, such an exercise is going to demand sacrifice that anybody can make, however the rewards you reap, the sense of direction you gain and the power you feel from the self-control you exercise will help your growth immeasurably, projecting confidence both inwardly and outwardly.
The sacrifice: you’re going to be minimising your time contribution to social obligations and junk activities, the reason for this is because these activities consume a lot of your precious time whilst yielding almost little to no reward increment towards your social market value. Monk mode is a serious commitment, you cannot half ass it. You’re either in or you’re not. It will be a struggle in the beginning, but once you’re fully engaged it will become a beneficially addictive lifestyle.
The kind of activities I’m talking about when I talk about junk activities are:
- Going out for coffee or sitting around idly.
- Playing video games.
- Watching marathons of television series/movies.
- Watching porn.
- Refreshing the shit out of Facebook/Twitter/Instagram or whatever social network it is you’re hooked on.
- Refreshing the shit out of internet forums such as /r/theredpill, 4chan or whatever community you’re in, basically: procrastinating on the internet.
- Sitting around drinking alcohol/doing drugs then being out of action with a migraine the next day from a hangover/come down.
All these activities are distractive or masturbatory, they do not benefit you in the long run but may temporarily please you in the short-term. Entertainment is necessary to cool off from periods of hard work but leading a life of instant gratification is a path leading to nowhere but failure, such a lifestyle achieves nothing other than casual fleeting bemusement. If all you do is distract yourself and spend your time on junk activities, you’ll leave no time for the things that really matter: things which contribute to personal investment. One cannot hope to have high social value without investing in themselves, this is where monk mode comes in to help kick-start the desired positive lifestyle change.
Cutting your social time to a bare minimum is incredibly important, more important than you may think. It’s very hard to stay focused when other people are telling you their problems and discussing nonsense gossip, it’s all too easy to get caught up in a distracting shitstorm of banality, let’s face it: if you’re low value the people you know probably aren’t going to be contributing much to your life other than their mundane company, there’s no harm in taking a break from them in order to get your own shit in order. To keep focused you need to detach yourself from the cacophony of society and instead focus on signalling the desire of your will into real life gains by having a plan and implementing it. Take action.
A brief but relevant tangential interjection on self-respect: If you hate yourself or do not value yourself it’s because you give yourself no reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect other people who are low value, but we disrespect ourselves for being low value (the exception being those with narcissistic personality disorders that make the individual delusional about their own value.) If the bulk of your time goes on junk activities, you will be directionless. There will be no feedback loops in your life to give you self-esteem, there will be an absence of activity where you push yourself, see a small gain, get validated by your small gain and then feel the resulting pride that comes from being better at something and seeing yourself grow in some small way. As humans, we are meant to grow, to flourish, to actualise. We desire growth. In the absence of growth, we flounder. When junk activities start to comprise the vast majority of your time expenditure you rob yourself of the opportunity to grow. The higher your social value, the more you will come to value your time as you will recognise your abilities and possess a self-respect for yourself for having such abilities. However, high value or not, we all have a finite amount of time until we die and every second wasted contributes towards missed opportunity.
Back to monk mode, the core structure of monk mode is based on the three I’s, introspection, isolation and improvement, monk mode is a temporary form of MGTOW, by cutting yourself off from the rest of the world for a while you can fine-tune your focus, calibrate your direction and confront yourself. You’ll be acknowledging your weaknesses and then formulating a plan of action to deal with them, for the things that can’t be fixed, such as being born ugly, mitigate them with damage control.
Introspection is to look inward, to evaluate one’s self. You’re going to be identifying your weaknesses, making yourself aware of them and then accepting them. Rather than hide, begrudgingly co-exist with or deny your weaknesses you must acknowledge them and accept them; only by doing this can you gain the power to rid yourself of such affliction. Accepting your weaknesses allows you to own your flaws rather than letting them imprison you within a negative mental feedback loop of helplessness. The most unintelligible thing a person can do, and “the average person” does this all the time, is to ignore one’s weaknesses. Weaknesses are ignored out of ego, out of emotion, to sustain your sense of being, your narcissism, your shaky foundation for confidence, but it is this willful ignorance of such weakness that amounts to nothing more than shoddy fabricated confidence. By not addressing your weaknesses you allow your weakness to take control over you in whatever manner small or large that it manifests. Rather than patch up the hole in your armour, you are pretending there is no hole there at all and by ignoring the problem, you only grant it the opportunity to grow and have a further monopoly over your chances for success.
A conscious denial of an accepted truth for the sake of one’s ego leaves you vulnerable to the potency of the truth. A core part of red pill philosophy is to be harmonious with the truth so that the truth is fighting on your side rather than against you at the side of the enemy, whoever that may be in any given scenario. When a person tries to use one of your weaknesses against you, aware of the truth, the power of embarrassment will be absent and you will be able to keep composure (hold frame) rather than let a scrupulous detractor rob you of your power within the primacy of the moment. You need to be honest with yourself so that you know what you’re working with, without awareness you cannot hope to achieve success. On a machiavellian tangent, nobody lucks into success contrary to what you think you may have seen with others and/or what they may have led you to believe about their accomplishments.
Isolation is necessary to encourage an amplification of focus and a fortification of personal direction. Handling social politics such as relationships, logistics, people’s feelings and yadda yadda is burdensome on one who is looking to mitigate or otherwise eradicate their weaknesses whilst working to enhance their strengths. You have a certain number of things you can contend with at one time, social obligations will quickly obliterate your workload and leave you feeling overwhelmed when you’re looking to achieve higher goals. It is important that one has their own space and the freedom to self-govern and direct their desires and a modicum of solitude is necessary to achieve this. With awareness of one’s weaknesses comes the clarity of self-determination, with a clear mind the path to accomplish higher desires becomes more abundantly evident. Confusion is an affliction which causes many to float along in life, lost, without any real purpose or goal. You do not want to be one of these people, the “average person”, in order to achieve greatness you need clearly obtainable goals, an awareness of your position and the peace, space and freedom to determine your self-governance independent of external manipulations.
Without the conflict of social obligation or the dissent of outside opinion, you are free in isolation to forge yourself into the very thing that you want to be. What you want for yourself is more important than what anybody else wants you to be, which is why through introspection should you not already know it, you will deliberate until you know exactly what it is you want to achieve. Ultimately you’re the one who is stuck with yourself for the rest of your days, forced to endure whatever weaknesses or failures that you may or will have due to inaction. It is thus up to you to be responsible for your own happiness and dictate to yourself what needs to be done to actualise your desire, the influence of others has the potential to be beneficial, but for the sake of monk mode we will assume the precedent that the majority of external influence is absent in value and thus incongruent with the diction of your planning. Others can aid you in your goals (such as a personal trainer or should you be still undecided of your direction despite much introspection, trusted advisors) but nobody should be dictating what those goals are and making decisions on your behalf (such as parents or people who have a vested interest in you not improving yourself), you shall be your own planner and you shall plan diligently. Do not underestimate the importance of isolation if you are a social animal, it is most necessary in order to ensure success.
Introspection and isolation make up what are the psychological components of monk mode, they are the processes which when successfully enacted allow a man of procrastination to forcefully impose his will upon the world, to take actions where others merely theorise. To become a doer, a mover, a hustler, to be a man of action rather than inaction.
Refer to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs for an illustration of what your immediate life priorities should look like, starting with the physiological and moving upwards, note the inclusion of “sex” in the physiological category, I believe this primarily refers to an orgasm in the literal sense (which can be masturbation), this is not the same as “sexual intimacy” as shown in the love/belonging category:
Self-improvement activities are things such as:
- Lifting/jogging/playing sport (a workout of some kind.)
- Tidying and cleaning your room (if your ground zero is spotless it will do wonders for your mental state)
- Learning a language (increases your skill base and opens up foreign social circles)
- Learn from non-fiction books, they’re especially good for turning wasted commute time into productive time.
- If you’re a student of some kind, study hard, don’t waste the opportunity, be good at your specialty and you can make money from it if you’re in the top percentile.
- Learn a martial art/instrument.
- Learn to be funny (great for making friends and easing social awkwardness.)
- Learn to cook, use recipe books/trial and error (very important to aid nutrition and fuel your gym gains.)
The younger you are when you begin investing in yourself, the better. That doesn’t mean if you’re not young anymore that you should just give up on the idea however. If you’re 40 years old and only just realising you’ve wasted most of your life up until this point then it’s better to turn around now and start making a change rather than doing it at 50. Once you hit 50 you only would have said “shit I’ve known this crap since I was 40, I should have done something back then!” and then compounded your own sense of frustration further, it’s like compound interest albeit more inadvertently masochistic. Control the time you have left on this Earth and make it valuable or you will have to live with insufferable pangs of regret until your deathbed. You need to maximise the efficacy of your time, time is your most valuable commodity and it’s incredibly finite, like an hourglass, it trickles down, except unlike an hourglass you can’t turn it around and start again if you waste the sand granules that have dropped down on pointless shit. You have one continuing trickle of sand that symbolically represents the fleetingness of your existence on this Earth and that’s it, so use your “chance at life” wisely if you want it to have purpose and are to attain actualisation.
Practicing your social skills is important, too much reclusiveness results in rusty social skills, if you fear your social skills may be deteriorating then go out intermittently, however socialising should not feature prominently within your calendar until you reach the top 10% of men, and even then, once you make it to the top you need to be wary not to grow complacent and lose what you’ve built for yourself as a man of ever-increasing social value. In higher social circles, business is often mixed with pleasure, bear the importance of that in mind.
When choosing friends: surround yourself with funny people, people who can take a joke and aren’t overly defensive. I personally make it a habit to talk to people with a keen wit or a sophisticated sense of humour as well as watching stand up comedy in my leisure time (yes, even in my leisure time I like to passively learn from other people’s wit.) Comedy should be important to you, comedy is medicine for the soul. Comedy can stop a man in pain from turning insane, immerse yourself in the world of comedy and the world of comedy will do your state of mind wonders. Not taking serious matters too seriously is a great coping mechanism for aiding one’s mental endurance, use comedy as a painkiller to aid you in your journey of self-improvement if you need it to take off the edge, it’s a far healthier way to spend your down time versus drink and drugs.
Leaving Monk Mode and utilising your gains:
How do you know when you’re ready to leave monk mode? It’s simple. You will manage to resist junk activities and finally sustain self-improvement as your modus operandi (factory setting.) It could take you a long time to reach this state, it depends on your starting point and more importantly, your self-discipline. Monk mode, is as much about learning self-discipline as it is engaging in self-improvement. When you manage to sustain monk mode you’ll be on your way to cultivating a lifestyle of success. You will be wrapped up in the self-importance of improving all the facets in your life, managing them with a keen eye and seeing that all your personal investments grow (much like a stock portfolio.) Your schedule will be so packed that you won’t have time to waste on low quality, frivolously time hungry exercises. If someone’s got something going on and you know you’d get more done doing your own thing then you keep doing your own thing. You are the basis for your sense of direction, you don’t get drawn in by other people’s whims. You never feel like being the tag-along, you have the ambition, the vision and the determination to keep moving towards the top, your time is far too valuable to even contemplate wasting it on “tagging along.”
Leaving monk mode with your SMV gains does not mean you can become stagnant in your endeavours, retain your hunger for betterment no matter what level you’re at, this is the defining quality (successful SMV maintenance) between someone who is “doing great” and sustains the greatness achieved through monk mode and someone who was “doing alright” and has now fallen off the wagon and begun to relapse. Do not accept half measures from anybody, but most importantly of all if you want to attain greatness you cannot tolerate it from yourself. Stop being your own worst enemy, free your mind and begin actualising.