“To progress again, man must remake himself. And he cannot remake himself without suffering. For he is both the marble and the sculptor. In order to uncover his true visage he must shatter his own substance with heavy blows of his hammer.” – Alexis Carrel
Monk mode is a self-improvement framework for improving your worth, and in turn, increasing the quality of person you are. Many people fail to integrate self-improving habits into their life because they have psychological hurdles they struggle to overcome and are easily distracted by nonsense that confers them no benefit.
Monk mode is about mitigating distraction and focusing solely on self-betterment by filling up your time with activities that improve you as a human-being. Naturally, such an endeavour is going to demand sacrifice. However, the rewards you reap, the sense of direction you gain and the power you feel from the self-control you’ll exercise will feed your growth immeasurably, in turn passively increasing your self-esteem and outward confidence.
The sacrifice: you’re going to be minimising your time contribution to social obligations and junk activities. The reason for this is because these activities consume much of your time whilst yielding little to negligible increase towards your social market value. Monk mode is a serious commitment that is not to be half-assed. You’re either doing it, or you’re not. It’ll be a struggle in the beginning, but once you’re fully engaged it becomes a beneficial, productive and dare I say even addictive lifestyle.
When I talk about “junk activities”, this is the kind of thing I’m referring to:
- Going out for coffee or sitting around idly.
- Playing video games.
- Watching marathons of television series/movies.
- Watching porn.
- Constantly refreshing social media and internet forums.
- Being out of action with a hangover/come down from alcohol/drug consumption.
All these activities are distractive or masturbatory; they confer no benefit in the long run, but are fleetingly pleasing in the short-term. Entertainment is necessary to cool off from periods of hard work, but leading a life of continuous instant gratification leads to nowhere but a path of regret and failure.
If all you do is distract yourself by spending your time on junk activities, there’ll be no time left for the things that really matter: activities that build long-term value. One cannot hope to have high social value without investing in themselves, and this is exactly what Monk Mode is – a commitment to maximise your capabilities to whatever esoteric limit it is they’re capped at.
Cutting your social time to a bare minimum is incredibly important, more important than you may think. It’s nigh impossible to lead a productive life when people are telling you their problems, gossiping, and introducing otherwise vapid and unimportant nonsense into your life. It’s all too easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of banality, because let’s face it, if you’re low value, the people you know will be too, winners don’t hang out with losers.
If you accept you’re a low value human-being, but you want to rectify this and become better, cutting off mundane people is crucial. Mundane people, also known as average people, don’t share your ambition and will jealously deride you every step of the way on your path to self-betterment.
Minimising distractions is crucial, low quality people, low quality media, you need to quarantine yourself from all of it – and it is only then you’ll be able to focus on channelling your desire to be better into real life gains. Because instead of walking around in a half-sentient stupor, you’ll have a rough plan for productive living, and execute it to the best of your ability.
A brief but relevant tangential interjection on self-respect: If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too. The exception to this is those with narcissistic personality disorders that make the individual delusional about their own value. If the bulk of your time goes on junk activities, you will be directionless. There will be no feedback loops in your life to give you self-esteem. There will be an absence of activity where you push yourself, see a small gain, get validated by your small gain and then feel the resulting pride that comes from being better at something and seeing yourself grow in some small way. As humans, we are meant to grow, to flourish, to actualise. We desire growth and live for growth, for without growth we feel purposeless. In the absence of growth, we flounder. When junk activities start to comprise the majority of your time expenditure you rob yourself of the opportunity to grow. The higher your social value, the more you will come to value your time by merit of recognising your abilities and possessing a resulting self-respect as such. High value or not, we all have a finite amount of time until we die and every second wasted is a missed opportunity feeding into a sense of lethargy and mediocrity.
Now back on topic to monk mode, the core structure of monk mode is based on the three I’s: introspection, isolation and improvement. Monk mode is a temporary form of MGTOW, by cutting yourself off from the rest of the world for a while you can fine-tune your focus, calibrate your direction and confront yourself. You’ll be acknowledging your weaknesses and then formulating a plan of action to deal with them. For the things that can’t be fixed, such as being born ugly, mitigate them with damage control: work out, get stylish haircuts, dress well and etc.
Introspection is to look inward, to evaluate one’s self. You’re going to be identifying your weaknesses, making yourself aware of them and then accepting them. Rather than hide, begrudgingly co-exist with or deny your weaknesses you must acknowledge them and accept them. Only by doing this can you gain the power to rid yourself of such afflictions. Accepting your weaknesses allows you to own your flaws rather than permitting them to imprison you within a negative mental feedback loop of helplessness. The most unintelligible thing a person can do, and “the average person” does this all the time, is to ignore one’s weaknesses. Weaknesses are ignored out of ego, out of emotion, to sustain your sense of being, and whatever shaky foundation of self-confidence it is that you have. However, it is this wilful ignorance of such weakness that amounts to nothing more than a shoddy farcical fabrication of confidence. It’s not pure, rational confidence, but delusional, narcissistic confidence. By not addressing your weaknesses you allow them to take control of you in whatever manner it is they manifest. Rather than patch up the hole in your armour, you are pretending there is no hole there at all. And thus by ignoring the problem, you only grant it the opportunity to extend its foothold within your psyche, damaging your chances at success and happiness.
A conscious denial of an accepted truth for the sake of one’s ego leaves you vulnerable to the potency of the truth. A core part of red pill philosophy is to be harmonious with the truth so that the truth is fighting on your side rather than against you at the side of your enemies. Whoever is congruent with the truth, can monopolise the truth and expose liars. Those who are reliant upon fabrications must expend massive energy on maintaining their façade. As someone who lives harmoniously with the truth, you need not expend such energy, giving you a further edge. When a person tries to use one of your weaknesses against you, aware of the truth, the power of embarrassment will be absent and you will be able to keep composure (hold frame) rather than let a scrupulous detractor rob you of your power within the primacy of the moment. You need to be honest with yourself so that you know what you’re working with, without awareness you cannot hope to achieve success. On a Machiavellian tangent, nobody lucks into success contrary to what they may have led you to believe about their accomplishments.
Isolation is necessary to encourage an amplification of focus and a fortification of one’s personal direction. Handling social politics such as relationships, logistics, people’s feelings and yadda yadda is burdensome on one who is looking to mitigate or otherwise eradicate their weaknesses whilst working to enhance their strengths. You have a certain number of things you can contend with at one time, social obligations will quickly obliterate your workload and leave you feeling overwhelmed when you’re looking to achieve loftier goals. It is important that one has their own space and the freedom to self-govern and direct their desires, and a modicum of solitude is necessary to achieve this. With awareness of one’s weaknesses comes the clarity of self-determination. With a clearer and more lucid mind the path to accomplishing higher desires becomes more obvious and self-evident. Confusion is an affliction which causes many to float along in life, lost, without any real purpose or goals. You do not want to be one of these people, the “average person.” In order to achieve greatness you need clearly obtainable goals, an awareness of your position and the peace, space and freedom to determine your self-governance independent of undue external manipulatory influence.
Without the conflict of social obligation or the dissent of outside opinion, you are free in isolation to forge yourself into the very thing that you want to be. What you want for yourself is more important than what anybody else wants you to be. Through introspection should you not already know it, you will deliberate until you know exactly what it is you want to achieve. Ultimately you’re the one who is stuck with yourself for the rest of your days, forced to endure whatever weaknesses or failures that you may or will have due to inaction. It is thus up to you to be responsible for your own happiness and dictate to yourself what needs to be done to actualise your desires. The influence of others has the potential to be beneficial, but for the sake of monk mode we will assume the precedent that the majority of external influence is absent in value and thus incongruent with the diction of your planning. Others can aid you in your goals (such as a personal trainer or should you be still undecided of your direction despite much introspection, trusted advisors.) However, nobody should be dictating what those goals are and making decisions on your behalf (such as your parents, or people who have a vested interest in you not improving yourself.) You shall be your own planner and you shall plan diligently. Do not underestimate the importance of isolation if you are a social animal, for it is most necessary in order to ensure success.
Introspection and isolation make up what are the psychological components of monk mode, they are the processes which when successfully enacted allow a man of procrastination to forcefully impose his will upon the world, to take action where others merely theorise. You must become a doer, a mover, a player. You must become a man of action rather than allow yourself to be one of inaction.
Refer to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs for an illustration of what your immediate life priorities should look like, starting with the physiological and moving upwards, note the inclusion of “sex” in the physiological category, I believe this primarily refers to an orgasm in the literal sense (which can be masturbation), this is not the same as “sexual intimacy” as shown in the love/belonging category:
Self-improvement activities are things such as:
- Lifting/jogging/playing sport (a workout of some kind.)
- Tidying and cleaning your room (if your ground zero is spotless it will do wonders for your mental state)
- Learning a language (increases your skill base and opens up foreign social circles)
- Learn from non-fiction books, they’re especially good for turning wasted commute time into productive time.
- If you’re a student of some kind, study hard, don’t waste the opportunity, be good at your specialty and you can make money from it if you’re in the top percentile.
- Learn a martial art/instrument.
- Learn to be funny (great for making friends and easing social awkwardness.)
- Learn to cook, use recipe books/trial and error (very important to aid nutrition and fuel your gym gains.)
The younger you are when you begin investing in yourself, the better. That doesn’t mean if you’re not young anymore that you should just give up on the idea however. If you’re 40 years old and only just realising you’ve wasted most of your life up until this point then it’s better to turn around now and start making a change rather than doing it at 50. Once you hit 50 you only would have said “shit I’ve known this crap since I was 40, I should have done something back then!” and then compounded your own sense of frustration further. It’s like compound interest albeit more inadvertently masochistic. Control the time you have left on this Earth and make it valuable or you will have to live with insufferable pangs of regret until your deathbed. You need to maximise the efficacy of your time, time is your most valuable commodity and it’s incredibly finite, like an hourglass, it trickles down, except unlike an hourglass you can’t turn it around and start again if you have wasted the sand granules that have already dropped on pointless shit. You have one continuing trickle of sand that symbolically represents the fleetingness of your existence on this Earth and that’s it. So use your “chance at life” wisely if you want it to have purpose and are to attain some semblance of self-actualisation.
Practicing your social skills is important, too much reclusiveness results in rusty social skills and reduced articulacy. If you fear your social skills may be deteriorating then go out intermittently, however socialising should not feature prominently within your calendar until you reach the top 10% of men. Even then, once you make it to the top you need to be wary not to grow complacent and lose what you’ve built for yourself as a man of ever-increasing social value. In high society social circles, business is often mixed with pleasure; bear the importance of that in mind.
When choosing friends: surround yourself with funny people, people who can take a joke and aren’t overly defensive. I personally make it a habit to talk to people with a keen wit or a sophisticated sense of humour as well as watching stand-up comedy in my leisure time (yes, even in my leisure time I like to passively learn from other people’s wit.) Comedy should be important to you; as comedy is medicine for the soul. Comedy can stop a man in pain from turning insane, immerse yourself in the world of comedy and the world of comedy will do your state of mind wonders. Not taking serious matters too seriously is a great coping mechanism for aiding one’s mental endurance. Use comedy as a painkiller to aid you in your journey of self-improvement if you need it to take off the edge, it’s a far healthier way to spend your down time versus drink and drugs.
Leaving Monk Mode and utilising your gains:
How do you know when you’re ready to leave monk mode? It’s simple. You will manage to resist junk activities and sustain self-improvement as your modus operandi (factory setting.) It could take you a long time to reach this state; it depends on your starting point and more importantly, your self-discipline. Monk mode is as much about learning self-discipline as it is engaging in self-improvement. When you manage to sustain monk mode as a way of life you’ll be on your way to cultivating a lifestyle of success. You will be wrapped up in the self-importance of improving all the facets in your life, managing them with a keen eye and watching all your personal investments flourish (much like a stock portfolio.) Your schedule will be so packed that you won’t have time to waste on low quality, frivolously time hungry exercises. If someone’s got something going on and you know you’d get more done doing your own thing, then keep doing your own thing. You are the basis for your sense of direction; don’t get drawn in by other people’s whims. You should never feel like being the tag-along, you have the ambition, the vision and the determination to keep moving towards the top. Your time is far too valuable to even contemplate wasting it as a “tag along.”
Leaving monk mode with your SMV gains does not mean you can become stagnant in your endeavours. Retain your hunger for betterment no matter what level you’re at. This is the defining quality (successful maintenance of one’s SMV) between someone who is “doing great” and sustains the greatness achieved through monk mode and someone who was “doing alright” and has now fallen off the wagon and begun to relapse. Do not accept half measures from anybody, but most importantly, do not tolerate it from yourself. Stop being your own worst enemy, free your mind and begin actualising.
Addendum: A book I really recommend in helping you refine your focus, ambition and general direction towards a certain direction or career path in life is Robert Greene’s book “Mastery.” Mastery is a practical guide to becoming successful in your chosen field, giving historical examples of masters, gaining apprenticeship and refining your focus to maintain a relentless motivation. Such a book would make a great read as part of your monk mode endeavour and I would even go so far to say it would help you with disciplining yourself to stay in monk mode by helping you figure out what you want out of life, rather than monk mode just being this “thing that you did that one time.”
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I likewise highly recommend you devour the books listed on this page (of which Robert Greene’s “Mastery” is included.)
107 thoughts on “Monk Mode: Stronger, Smarter, More Refined”
Brilliant. May I recommend Plato’s Republic to the especially ambitious among you? Look for Allan Bloom’s translation. It’s a difficult read but definitely worth mastering.
Just started reading the republic recently, not far in yet, penguin books (think it was translated by a Desmond Lee?)
I was recently in monk mode, though I wouldn’t have called it that. One thing to watch out for is that it makes you appealing to others and they will intrude on your isolation. In my particular situation it makes sense to have my girlfriend live with me(very rural, cooks well, cleans for me), and when I start spending ninety percent of my time on improving myself she has trouble leaving me alone. Then, when I take some time off to attend to her needs I have to lecture her on being present because part of what was making her desire my attention so much was her seeing me exercising my intellect.
Live with dignity and enjoy the ride before trying to die with it. Life can not be captured and death is the ultimate change that demonstrates that.
“Be alone and you are inviting Satan”
That’s the balance act with isolation.
The individual is nothing without it’s community. For what are you individual from without it?
You need social relations.
Minimize them and interact only with people of core value, interest and family. Those who are on your path or those who give you human warmth for free because you are high value.
Don’t forget you are a fragment of a family and the higher your value goes, the higher the family value goes.
Stay humble and know the higher purpose of your growth and success. Be careful of Infantile Grandiosity which will fuck you up here and rip your Ego defenses into pieces in no time. Especially when you come from low standard backgrounds and go high the ladder very fast very young.
Stay conscious, keep the hustle.
What do you feel is the “higher purpose.”
I’m not trying to be obtuse or critical. I’m just curious.
This post is going to be my everyday-first-thing-in-the-morning read until I have changed! Thank you for that!
It’s an honour, you’re welcome.
This is a very well written and well thought-out post. You’ve just gained another reader of your blog. Bookmarked.
I’m going through a period where I was tired of feeling lonely although being “surrounded” by virtual and non-virtual “friends”so I was thinking of leaving all social media (and a lot of social live) and focusing just in myself. Then I found this post and read it a few times until it sat down. Then I proceeded.
3x I: isolation, introspection, improvement.
Thanks for your encouraging post
The key to virtual friends is that the content you consume from them must be uplifting and add fuel to your abundance mental model. Read grand master Ill’s penultimate post on the personal development tag about being in the abundance or scarcity mental model–it’s very good.
Disconnecting I think is a mistake. There can be time wasting elements that can swarm you in virtual networks and communities, but one can learn to manage them and mold their content into a tool for a much greater flow of new ideas and information, and also as an outlet to begin to learn the very valuable skill of organizing and expressing one’s thoughts. This act of taming the wild chaotic beast that is social media could very well strengthen your skill at picking out signals from noise. There is a lot of noise out there but there is also a lot of signal. Being able to pick a signal out of a lot of noise is an immeasurably valuable skill. As long as you get a heavy dose of signal from social networks or communities you can rest assured your time was well spent.
I personally find twitter and facebook to have a too high of a noise to signal ratio. This blog is in its infancy and hasn’t really blown-up yet. Mark my word that it will some day in the future. You could very well get a lot of value in participating in discussions in these comments. Also r/redpill is a great sub-reddit.
The fact that you are here on this blog commenting makes me believe you’ve started your journey on the right path. Godspeed.
Well I’m not disconnecting completely. Regarding Facebook I made a new account with 0 friends just to follow the sites I am interested in (also cause I manage an Facebook page for work). Still using twitter but stopped posting in Instagram and discontinued Google+
They were time consuming as I sat there often refreshing every network constantly. Of course I am not retiring completely. I still have Skype and smartphone chat apps. But I am cutting my time on them as they were not contributing anything positive at the moment.
Instead I will focus on my improvement by other more productive ways. Gonna read the post you hinted about.
I would add “excessive sex with plates” to the list of junk activities. This is a trap I found myself falling into headfirst last year once I got things to the point where I had multiple women to choose from who were guaranteed lays on any night of the week.
This is such a humblebrag.
I strongly disagree that morality (should say “ethics”) and lack of prejudice (should say “good judgment”) are at the pinnacle of being a man, and I further disagree that automatic respect of others should be expected of me, but other than that, good article, and I will put it into practice.
Can’t say I fully agree with all your arguments, but I do like some. I think you’re right when you say people nowadays fill their lives with “junk activities”: Facebook, twitter, instagram, watching shows that don’t benefit you in any way. However, I do believe that of course one can use these things in a healthy manner, if, as you suggest, one can practice some form of self control and realize that one should only use these things in ways that are beneficial (eg. talking to an old friend on Facebook chat, I believe would have value). Your argument in favour of total asceticism, for me, is a bit much… eg. not going out for coffee with a friend, not allowing oneself to enjoy a movie ect. It’s life’s “little pleasures” which, in the end, make ones life worth living and completely denying them, to me, would be non-beneficial. Social needs are also important for people — and to have fun. I think the regular persons fight nowadays is how to use the many, many forms of entertainment thrown at us in a way that is both fulfilling and entertaining… in a way that doesn’t seem wasteful. Life is not solely about “growth” as a human being; to me it’s enjoying life and not feeling guilty, but also feeling inspired enough to pursue some form of meaning.
The point isn’t to forever isolate yourself, but monk mode is more of a tolerance break to improve without the distractions. The purpose is to come back and enjoy the old things in moderation, which will make them feel more significant while also leaving you much better off than before.
I see it as a short term diet- drop all the sugars and workout until you get your body better than you wanted it, then you can enjoy that occasional twinkie even more, and enjoy when you eat it because it’s what you want to do, not because it’s a compulsive need.
Some people diet slowly over more time, but it is preferable to go cold turkey if you’re starting out or more drastic, which is most likely the target audience here.
I have, as of 2-3 weeks ago, hit the point where my self-discipline kicked in, and now every day is an optimization challenge. I love it, and my confidence is getting to interesting levels. My life is naturally rather isolated, and encourages self-reflection and productivity. This post is spot-on.
As a martial artist I would follow the Japanese model called Gogeshio. This is a warriors retreat whereby you push yourself beyond all limits physically, mentally, and ultimately in transcendent clarity you achieve a spiritual quality to your art. Many of the historical Masters, Mas Oyama, Goshin Fonikoshi, and Myamoto Musahi would go off into the mountains isolated and train their techniques with single minded focus. a rule was, “For as many hours that you sleep so shall you train” 8 hrs. sleep 8 hrs. training. For three months in the wilderness alone with your self had such a profound effect on these warriors that when they returned to normal society they were often glorified for their incredible insight and superior mental ability. To do this in today’s society this is not realistic. We had a training camp in northern Ontario that we’d prepare for a 10 day challenge and even with such a short period it had a profound effect.
Absolutely fantastic post. I reached the same conclusion as you did, but you have written it down in such a brilliant matter that I could never do.
Thank you for the insight. I’ve become more prone to isolation the past year, and I’m loving it. Sadly, I haven’t got half as much done as I wish I would have. Part of the problem is the people trying to pull me back into the bottom. I am currently in my last year of college and people are always trying to get me to hang out, drink, or “chill”.. Some people understand that I enjoy my alone time, but there is one friend who is the biggest AFC I’ve met and he gets all pissy when I don’t want to hang out. He doesn’t seem to get that I’m not avoiding him, I’m avoiding everybody. It’s very frustrating, and there isn’t one day when the kid isn’t inviting me to join him in some mundane, counterproductive shit that he enjoys doing. What is the best way to handle this? When I’m up front about it I’m a recipient of passive aggressive behavior. Disclaimer: I’ve known this kid for years (we grew up around the corner from each other) and he decided to attend the same school as me. He’s always acted like this, being he grew up a spoiled only child with inadequate attention from his parents, so it isn’t as easy to get my point across as it is with others. It also sucks that my roommate has him over a lot so it’s hard to be unaffected. This kid doesn’t know how to spend time alone, also has no drive to do anything.
Sorry for asking help with this soap opera fucking garbage, but I am in need of some assistance here. I just want to achieve full-blown monk mode, and UNFORTUNATELY this is the problem I have with meeting that expectation.
He sounds like a parasite who will drag you down or keep you at the bottom if that’s where you already are. You have to hold firm and say NO. See him on your terms, if he will not respect your boundaries and your desire to improve yourself, then consider kicking him out of your life for he is toxic. Being bitchy/passive aggressive is not a good reason to give into him, that’s just him coercing you. He has issues and could probably do with some monk mode himself, although spoiled as he is I’m not sure if this article would get through to him either. He may be your childhood friend but that shouldn’t give him the right to dictate your future and how you plan for it now. You need to hold firm, put your foot down, say NO and stick to your guns. Define your boundaries and ensure he conforms to them, or get rid of him and kick him out of your life for good. Best of luck.
Great read. Just bought Think and Grow Rich and Mastery 2 weeks ago. I have been coming into contact with people and reading articles such as these which brings those things I am learning into full circle. I am on a journey towards personal development and growth and enjoy communities such as this one which aligns with my new found focus.
I know what I must now do, in fact, I’ve known for quite a while.
Monk Mode is a brilliant philosophy brother,
This is sheer brilliance. The point about learning from non-fiction and re-claiming ‘dead’ time (phrase from Robert Greene) is on point.
However, there is one non-fiction caveat that I think power players and aspiring power player alike can benefit from and that’s Mario Puzo’s The Godfather. The film is great entertainment but the book itself is a great illustration of Machiavellian prowess fiction or not; much the same way that The Wire is a great illustration of dark triad characters.
What’s your take on this? (note: all of this only became apparent to me once I started reading your blog so thanks for that)
Fantastic resource – a page I quite often flip back to for more guidance.
The follow-up article will come when it comes. As of present I’ve suspended work on “the monk mode blueprint” to work on other projects.
Do you have an idea of when you’ll release it?
Make your own. Sit down, determine your goals, and your desired time frame then create action steps to get there. Then cut all the fat, and just focus on the meat.
This looks very promising. Like a step by step guide. This will save lives! I hope you are doing fine with the article and you will release it soon.
Just started applying all these principles and there is a lot more I need to learn. Would like to post my progress and show my results, also, a step by step image display of how I applied these principles and what I did to cope with certain events. Including my background story. I was married to a clinically diagnosed bipolar woman with Border-Line personality disorder. My life was hell and everyone around me was giving me the Happy fake Wrong advice that would lead me to sacrifice myself more and more, only to get spat on. Until I discovered the truth of TRP. It was a straight forward hard truth, I was pissed, but it’s called the redpill for a reason. And now I am taking the steps necessary to create a life for myself where I am the absolute best I can be. How to not fall victim by the emotional snares of our society and how to excel beyond anything I want to. I just want to show people that it actually works too. And to help out the men who have been victims of similar treatment in their lives. Craziest part is, I’m 23 years old.
I’d love to hear more about your story and your progress! Got a blog mate?
Hey, any Idea when this post is coming out? been 6 months, we are all very keen to know. Great Post keep up the good work
It’s all good, but you seem to imply, what all this should be done just to be more respectable in society hierarchy, but do social matters really matter? What should I care what other people think?
Do it for your own happiness.
Brilliantly written! I was already in monk mode before reading this article due not having a phone all of 2015. I think it was some sort of divine intervention telling me to materialize my dreams and thoughts which are so close! I’ve had plenty of friends rather associates trying to pull me back into monotonous, banal, and trivial activities but I’m sticking to my guns. I’m interested in the follow up including spirituality. Thank you much.
Great read! I would like to mention that this comment is from a reader in Nigeria. I find this article on monk mode very helpful. In my personal experience I have always known that a price must be paid for a value but my question to myself had been what exactly is the price. This article has answered this question and others for me. It serves as a great direction.
I’d love to read your opinion on my issue with my best friend: he happens to be quite a pothead with a fledging music career. In three years we have worked together on a series of projects including a clothing line and an entertainment website all of which as failed as his contribution to these projects has been mere talk and lofty ideas. I offer the basic skill set for the running of these businesses as I’m a graphic designer and writer. I feel over worked and not getting value for my time and effort financially and otherwise. As I write this he is working to see that I manage his music career as he can’t afford a manager.
He is my best friend I don’t know how I go about telling him that I don’t want anymore lofty ideas and I want to be independent and see what I can do for myself by self improvement. My fear is how he would fare all by himself.
IllimitableMan, can you create a set of Monk Mode Commandments?
Could be a worthwhile idea. I’ll consider it.
IllimitableMan, awesome stuff.
I’d love to see that blueprint whenever it’s finished and you’re ready to post it. I just found the red pill and, being a low SMV, depressed, waste right now, I understand that Monk Mode is needed.
Doing it on my own is fine but having a structure to follow would definitely be great.
I’ve already contemplated pretty much everything in this post but to have you put it all together so concisely has helped a lot. I cry sometimes when hit by the truth. It’s weird. Not sorrow or happiness or anything like that. It’s from profound realization. It’s almost like something is guiding me towards awakening and when the truth hits me at the right moment of epiphany my body reacts with tears and chokes. It highlights the experience and makes it sink in deeper. Well, this happens while reading your post, so I know I’m on the right track.
Also been reading your other posts. Fucking awesome work man. You do the world a big service. Admirable, honorable, profitable, enjoyable. Who the fuck ARE you? lol.
Starting Monk Mode.
Brilliant literary artistry. You gave verbal life to an experience that’s consistent with all eminent human beings. They each undergo this “monk mode” in different times and forms, ultimately evolving into something more that influences the world. I would like to contribute a blog post to Illimitable Men and, perhaps, you could deliver a work of art on mine. We share a similar writing style and talent for bringing abstract thought to accurate diction. View my blog here: boldsage.com. Looking forward to your feedback.
Brilliant Blog. Thank you.
Hey OP (writer of this blogpost) you should read William Walker Atkinson’s “Personal Power”. It’s a 1,500 page book and will take your understanding to a much higher level concerning matters of self-improvement. Check out the sticky on /fringe/ for links where you can find the book and download it.
I needed this. Thank you. It’s tiring being the fat kid in school. As others have said, I will faithfully read this every single morning after my workout and shower until I have changed. You do not know how much I thank you.
New post: https://illimitablemen.com/2016/04/26/the-sanctity-of-time/
could easily replace(now inactive – old link http://illimitablemen.com/2014/02/02/the-value-of-time/) under the linked text – ”you will come to value your time”.
I read the previous one on: https://web.archive.org/web/20140202165528/http://illimitablemen.com/2014/02/02/the-value-of-time/
Great spot, appreciate the heads up.
While I agree with many points, this post is really good btw, I disagree with the separation from other people mentality. GRANTED your point about having to isolate in order to determine personal prowess is totally right, but in some points of the post it made it seem like the only way to live is introverted.
Life cannot progress without social interaction, people even introverts need interaction. Although perhaps it was a point you didn’t want to make in this particular post, and you simply wanted to explain a certain idea, I couldn’t help but think of it as I read the post.
Thanks IM ,I have lived to hate,despise and curse my shitty existence but this stuff really inspiring..you’re a real dad .Thnks men .Real genious be blessed!!bt how long should sb be in monk mode to avoid depression and mental depravity?
Late to the party – but thank you for this.
Time to go it alone for now.
Best of luck in your endeavours Jesse.
“The most unintelligible thing a person can do, and “the average person” does this all the time, is to ignore one’s weaknesses. Weaknesses are ignored out of ego, out of emotion, to sustain your sense of being, and whatever shaky foundation of self-confidence it is that you have. However, it is this wilful ignorance of such weakness that amounts to nothing more than a shoddy farcical fabrication of confidence. It’s not pure, rational confidence, but delusional, narcissistic confidence. By not addressing your weaknesses you allow them to take control of you in whatever manner it is they manifest. Rather than patch up the hole in your armour, you are pretending there is no hole there at all. And thus by ignoring the problem, you only grant it the opportunity to extend its foothold within your psyche, damaging your chances at success and happiness.”
Your words have inspired me
Commencing Monk Mode
“A core part of red pill philosophy is to be harmonious with the truth so that the truth is fighting on your side rather than against you at the side of your enemies”
Defeat the enemy within and the enemy outside cannot conquer.
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Hi, I am in my early twenties and felt my life is going downhill and need to pull things together.. I came across this post and found it very intriguing. I am definitely trying this technique but need your advise on one thing. My greatest weakness has always been about seeking constant validation from others. Though I have my personal interests and long term goals, I am not motivated to do them unless someone else is constantly validating me and complimenting me on my progress. Short term goals are fine, since accomplishing them overnight is itself a validation. But towards the long term goals, I am unable to keep the process going. Eventually I just lose the fire to keep improving and working on them and end up playing video games or slacking on the internet. Can you please help me get this leap of maturity where I enjoy life as a process by my own? This will help me a long way through my monk mode..
Thanks in advance!
Well, is this monk mode sure to work? I am not a motivated person and am often prone to depression. But sometimes I get this time where I’m really motivated to work hard (and I work like in monk mode), but once something goes wrong or I get bored and I quit and go back to my old habits. What I am asking now is: is it possible to change my source of gratification permanently with monk mode? My change is usually temporary. Like, if I work hard enough for a long enough time, will I truly fall in love with the game? I never tried to do this for longer than a few weeks. I am not motivated and very lazy and procrastinator. I want be a successful man, please help. What I should do? Just keep working until I get addicted to work and become very confident? I am aware that this change requires very much maintenance and daily motivation, however there’s usually a change of major theme or I do not know what in English.Thanks, help is very appreciated.
I found redpill late in life. There’s some things I do not agree with 100% but I absolutely am on board with the focus on self-improvement and pursuing your own fucking goals.
I do have kid bros. One isn’t doing too well, the other seems to instinctively get this shit (he is doing fine, unsurprisingly).
After agonizing about how to introduce my other bro to redpill, it hit me that this blog, and this blog post in particular, would do just fine. Self first, everything else later.
Thank you for writing it.
Self-improvement starts only when you get free of laziness.
Motivational and helpful. Thank you.
Led here through twitter.
Thank you – this is great writing.
Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for reading, and I hope you find it helpful.
I’m so glad to have found your blog, IM.
Thank you for existing.
what an eye opening article, it made me realize some things i couldnt see before. thank you sir.
Hey Illimitable Men, I’m 17 and I recently found The Red Pill and your blogs have been really helpful in my understanding of how the world works. I was wondering how would you suggest me to start Monk Mode? My life so far has been full of time wasting and just aimlessly walking around and I’m sick and tired of doing this anymore, and I want to change and am already starting to change bit by bit – I started exercising and lifting and I also started reading more books. So what do you recommend me to do to start monk mode? Your reply would be heavily appreciated
I was in the Marine Corps, have a Black Belt in Ju Jutsu (Japanese Martial Arts that focus on multiple assailant attacks, bone-breaking, muscle ripping etc. and not that pansy-ass Brazilian jujitsu bullshit) plus I started my own successful business that allows me a lot a free time to spend with my Wife and Son.
Everything (and I do mean everything) on this Monk Mode page is fucking true.
Thank you so much man, I’d let myself be a loser for ten years. I’m on a new road now and when i feel myself wanting to slip into a relapse I read your work and get up.
Went Monk Mode and MGTOW a few Years ago.
See book on Kindle…
The First MGTOW.
Men will no longer serve the man hating Feminists.
Feminism Freed Men and Enslaved Women to Corporate slavery.
Men now laugh at women…suckers.
So easily manipulated by Feminists.
If you need a reason to go Monk Mode.
Enjoy your peace.
It is YOUR life…
Feminism Freed Men and Enslaved Women to Corporate slavery. And women are VERY unhappy at this new role reversal. Men are walking away into peaceful new lives.
Male Sovereignty takes away all their power over men. And women are VERY unhappy about the fresh new “Peter Pan” life of men. The Dude Could FLY!!!
This I call the…
******* SOVEREIGN BEING. ******
Btw… selling my house, RV and retiring in the Colorado mountains….female free. Such peace.
Women wore out their welcome.
Feminism…revealed the true nature of women.
I now use Frugality as a weapon against the bankers.
We are the new Sovereign Beings.
Turn off the TV, deprogram and embrace your cool new life.
Monk Mode is our way forward.
MGTOW and Red Pill way just an awakening. Do NOT Linger there.
It is a quagmire you just go through.
True peace and inner happiness is found in Monk Mode. Interests, projects, learning and so much more await for those smart enough to deprogramming from shaming, manipulation and Legalized Slavery. (Marriage).
PS. If you got socked with Alimony, then go Monk Mode, out perform and make more money. Set up your bank transaction and forget about “IT”. (Leave HER behind forever.)
I AM THE MAN WHO LOVES HIS LIFE.
Jack G. McGee III
THE FIRST MGTOW
Currently writing a book on Monk Mode.
Men…forward this site to all your bros.
How do you know when you’ve reached the top 10% of men?
Would have to disagree with you on one thing there. Monk Mode is not a temporary form of MGTOW. There is no such thing. I’ve been a MGTOW Monk for 4 years and I have a job that deals with people all the time. I will be a MGTOW Monk for life and I have absolutely no problem with that, so being a MGTOW Monk is anything but temporary.
Who is the creator of the art (giant warrior vs small warrior)? Or is it from a video game? I can’t find the high-res version of it. Want to print it and hang it in my room.
Outstanding, I’ve been in monk mode for a while and recently discovered my purpose.
I’ve usually lost motivation in the past but with a feedback loop, I’m sure to stay motivated.
Wonderful article. Only thing bothering me is the lack of oxford commas, particularly in the I’s: introspection, isolation and improvement. I believe isolation should have a comma after it. If not for the sake of grammar, for the sake of separation. It seems like isolation and improvement are one, the way it is phrased now. Not trying to knock you, I think the article is really helpful!
Passport Bros….some MGTOW evolving into….
THE INTERNATIONAL MAN.