The Psychopathic Paradigm

The Psychopath's Perspective

Contents:
1.) Preamble
2.) Introduction to the Paradigm
3.) Self-Medication & Dysfunction
4.) Love & Loyalty
5.) Psychopathic Investment
6.) Psychopathic Pretence & Exposure
7.) In Closing
8.) Relevant Reading

Preamble:

I have been made aware that due to my writings, some have begun to naively glamourise the nature of clinical psychopathy in the name of fearlessness, glory and the pursuit of power. The glamorisation of such perversity has ironically, never been neither my goal nor desire. Allow me to be as candid, concise and succinct as possible on my position of psychopathy’s relevance to the red pill framework.

Psychopathy is held up as an exemplar of a clinical disorder which brings about personality traits that facilitate goal acquisition. It is through this lens we look at psychopathy pragmatically as merely a means to an end, a form of self-empowerment. The end is the power and prosperity that psychopathy can facilitate the actualisation of, the means is the ability to cross boundaries and enter action with boldness relatively uninhibited, devoid of either anxiety or uncertainty. These are elements of the psychopathic personality that are pragmatically efficient and thus beneficial to anybody who comes to possess such traits. They are innate characteristics of the psychopath, but they are not characteristics that need be limited to the clinical psychopath. They are qualities that we may learn to emulate, and hence this is why the word psychopathy is mentioned at all, to give an example of, and a frame of reference for, a set of qualities we hope to embody.

Bearing that in mind, my intimate dissection, exploration, analysis and overall thesis of psychopathy is to give an example of that which comes naturally to a minority, to a majority that it does not. We are effectively, cherry-picking the utilitarian aspects of psychopathy to augment the social effectiveness of the non-psychopathic. People hear the word psychopath and they get distracted by the negative connotations of the word. They begin to become lost in their imagination, rather than really read and listen to exactly what it is I am saying. If you follow my voice through what I say in my words and ignore the playfulness of your imagination, you will find what I am saying about psychopathy is markedly different from what you think about psychopathy. In essence, we study and learn from the psychopath by attempting to emulate their strengths as accurately as we can whilst leaving their weaknesses, mainly the dysfunctional parts of their condition, well alone. Luckily for you, as a student, rather than a natural psychopath, these are things you may pick and choose rather than be forced to live with. Allow me to emphasise the point in order to really nail it home once more: the goal of studying psychopathy is not to become psychopathic, but to become quasi-psychopathic.

In light of this, I find it paramount that the fine readership here are educated intimately on the internal struggle and solipsism of the natural psychopath, in effect, as an effort to de-glamourise and debunk the ill-formed and simplistic views of psychopathy the less informed possess, eg: “how cool it would be to be like Al Capone.” It is my observation that those who struggle with self-confidence, anxiety and other debilitating personal afflictions peer into the world of the psychopath and experience a “grass is greener” mentality.

They see a huge antithetical chasm between what they are and what they are looking at, and immediately like moths to a flame they become drawn to that which they are not, whilst despising that which they are. Such people hear of how little fucks the psychopathic personality gives, and compare it to their own emotional wreck, perceiving the psychopaths dysfunction to be a state of being superior to their own. However, such a person only sees the perks of psychopathy, not the negatives, because by merit of not being psychopathic, they do not understand everything that being psychopathic entails. They see only the best bits, the theatrics, the highlights. They are not making a like-for-like comparison, but are being mis-sold by their own ignorance what the state of psychopathy truly entails. Such cognitive distortions lead to ill-formed, misguided opinion. In light of this, I shall shine a light on psychopathic solipsism by inviting you into the world of the psychopath’s perspective.

Introduction to the Paradigm:

The psychopath contrary to much misguided mainstream thought is incredibly emotionally intelligent, if they weren’t they would be more akin to autists who are inefficient at understanding the emotions of others, let alone manipulating them. Much unlike the autist, the psychopath understands the relationship between emotions very well. They understand the intricate relationships between emotion, which emotions feed into one another, which limit each other, and how to use them tactically to influence people. If you define empathy as an understanding of emotion, then they have empathy. But if you think of empathy as sympathy, as in, a capacity to rationally understand the emotional state of another via logical deconstruction, whilst simultaneously feeling altruistically concerned for another’s well-being, then this is something they fundamentally lack the capacity for. Under these set of definitions, they cannot sympathise, merely empathise.

Psychopaths are by merit of their condition, incredibly lonesome. Psychopaths believe they are the superior focal point of all social interaction that occurs, and it is this view which is accompanied by a sentiment of incredible arrogance. As the psychopath is unable to connect with anyone by merit of the strongly held belief that “they are better than everybody else,” the psychopath oft finds themselves in a quandary between a rock and a hard place when it comes to love, respect and emotional connection.

At their root, psychopaths fundamentally lack a capacity for appreciation, rather than appreciation, psychopaths have dependency, dependency being effectively what appreciation is when you take the emotions away and the subsequent respect that accompanies it. All relations are value judgements to the psychopath, people are dependent on them, and likewise they too are dependent on various people, much to their disdain. Psychopaths like those that they find useful to depend on them for something in order to acquire leverage and by extension, a measure of power over the asset or commodity that said individual represents. Comparatively, they do not like to have to rely or depend on others because anything that falls outside of their direct line of control makes them uncomfortable and paranoid. They do not admire, and they are not admired, as a matter of projection when one does come to admire them, the psychopath becomes suspicious of the admiration, perceiving it as a form of toxic, parasitic dependence. They enjoy the narcissistic supply, but very strong admiration, perhaps better characterised as adoration, repulses them and stirs sensations of immense distrust. Such an attitude towards the imposing feelings of others is a reflexive defence mechanism of the psychopath that is quintessentially symbolic of the paranoid detachment they possess.

Even if a psychopath wanted very much to appreciate another, to feel connected to them, they would struggle immensely, and without drug usage the endeavour would invariably fail. It is due to the insidiousness of this condition that the psychopath feels lonely, because in a state of disconnected superiority and an absence of emotional connection they feel nothing for anyone but themselves. To compound this further, they have such a low opinion of people that they struggle to find value in them, even those who they objectively know to be talented. Psychopaths have a knack for spotting talent, but feeling egotistically threatened by said talent they oft search for or invent some glaring flaw in the talented individual in order to overshadow and vitiate their talent.

When a psychopath sees a talented person who is non-psychopathic, it is like a lion watching a deer that can backflip. “Okay, lovely, nice moves you have there, I respect that, that must have taken you some time to learn, but you’re not a lion, you’re not like me.” Likewise they feel no sympathy for the plight of others, and thus by extension cannot emotionally connect with people by hearing tales of their struggles. Such tales are not a bonding experience for the psychopath like they are for the neurotypical, they are perceived as undue emotional burden, a transgression into the realm of the psychopaths mental sovereignty. The psychopath may not want to be alone, but they don’t want to take on your burdens to feel connection, they rather cause chaos to feel connected instead. It is for this fundamental reason that male psychopaths are dreadful at maintaining long-term relationships with women who lack the sufficient masochism to counterbalance the male psychopath’s abusive personality.

Logically, the psychopath can relate, but emotionally they cannot connect. They are effectively, a prisoner of their own reality, co-existing with other realities rationally, whilst being completely detached from the emotional and spiritual semantics of said realities. Emotionally, they cannot escape their own reality and are unable to cross into others. The psychopath is trapped in their own emotional solipsism and how they feel about others is always merely a lesser outcome in relation to how they feel about themselves. They don’t feel things for others outside of the context of their own emotional world, so for example if you were to anger a psychopath, they would feel hatred for you; but if you were to have a problem that did not affect them in any way, they would not waste a moment on worrying about you.

To surmise this train of thought: if you do not cause them a problem, you are not their problem. They are incapable of caring about anything independent of themselves, so when you have given them no logically self-interested reason to care, they do not and cannot.

Self-Medication & Dysfunction:

Psychopaths have a propensity to indulge heavily in both alcohol and narcotics. The substance abuse appears to be an attempt to use inebriation to induce an ability to “connect with the common folk” and experience “what it’s like to feel emotionally connected” absent of chaos induction. For the psychopath, it is an alternative way to experiment with emotional connection. Psychopaths by default give no fucks for others, this is not out of malice, but simply out of incapability. Malice is a component of sadism, a different element of the dark tetrad (yes tetrad, not triad) that falls outside the scope of this article.

As people with emotional needs who cannot connect with others sympathetically, the psychopath is unendingly tortured by their own sense of loneliness and thus compelled to engage in chaos in order to create a sense of connection in the absence of illicit substances. It is this need for rewarding emotional connection that forms the basis of the insatiable lust for chaos iconic of the psychopath. The psychopath believes that by engaging in highly emotional situations they will perhaps be able to feel something in context to another, effectively, as perverse as it is, the psychopath attempts to medicate their own emotional quiet via the strongest force they know, negative energy. They push boundaries not just because they can, but to find out what their boundaries are. They also do this to attempt to feel emotionally connected to another by conjuring up the strongest emotions possible, call it psychopathic experimentation (at your expense.)

As I briefly mentioned in the prior paragraph, psychopaths tend to be lonely. Often the psychopath frequents rooms full of people, and yet, feels no affinity to anybody that is there. The functional psychopaths tend to keep company consistently, but are almost always alone. People are value functions to psychopaths, not emotionally connected personalities who share a spiritual link with them. By nature of having sympathy shut off, they get to avoid discomfort that neurotypical people feel at the expense of having the capacity to form meaningful mutual emotional connections. Functional psychopaths put on a really good outward display of “being on top of their shit,” but fundamentally they are damaged by merit of their inescapable emotional solitude. Psychopaths are not unfeeling people, they have and experience emotion, they merely care exclusively for their own feelings and are totally indifferent to the feelings of others. This assumes of course that the feelings of others are irrelevant to their plans and do not need to be manipulated in order to achieve a goal. If another’s feelings must be maintained or coaxed in a specific manner in order to achieve a personal goal, they will attempt to emulate sympathy and exploit emotion for personal gain.

Love & Loyalty:

The closest thing psychopaths experience to “love” or “closeness” is a respect for skill. Psychopaths covet intelligence, and because they are incapable of loyalty, they are perpetually paranoid that those who are in a position to betray them will inevitably do so. This is of course a manifestation of projection. They would abandon you in your hour of need if your value to them was disposable or easily replaceable. Hence they think through the lens of “what they would do” that the same is true of everybody else.

Rather ironically anybody who becomes aware of a psychopath in their life and all that entails would in the absence of abandoning the psychopath outright, quite rationally opt to betray them should a situation demand it. Wielding an understanding of the psychopathic personality reveals that such a person would betray one, so why would one feel loyalty to a person who does not reciprocate? Alas, you see, there is a self-fulfilling prophecy of distrust perpetuated by the psychopath’s inability to trust sufficiently. Psychopathic trust is limited to the confines of a power differential which is unfairly distributed in favour of the psychopath. That is to say, psychopaths need hegemonic leverage and meaningful assurance to exercise any modicum of trust.

Loyalty as wonderful as it is does not flourish if it is not mutual, and the psychopath by merit of their condition is incapable of it, hence loyalty is an element of the human social experience that the psychopath utterly struggles with, much to their detriment. Alliances for psychopaths are tactical partnerships which lack the solidification of emotional bonds, and it is the absence of these emotional bonds which ultimately makes their alliances more fickle, opportunistic, and fleeting. Only a very unintelligent individual is going to be loyal to someone who has no loyalty to them, loyalty between the aware and intelligent being characterised as a reciprocal mutually shared affinity where personal sacrifice and help is guaranteed in case of emergency.

Likewise, psychopaths are terrible at maintaining the pretence that they care, it utterly exhausts them. Again quite ironically and somewhat humorously, due to rather pronounced narcissism and a constant need for stimulation, they struggle to tolerate the only people dumb enough to actually give them any meaningful measure of one way loyalty, the cluelessly stupid. So you see, the natural psychopath suffers from a kind of “trust paradox” (potential future article) which pollutes their life in so much as how it acts as a continuously permeating source of uncertainty.

Psychopaths struggle with trust and loyalty because they are intrinsically, irrationally, distrustful and disloyal. Never trust a psychopath to come and save your life unless your death would deprive the psychopath in question of something significant that they value. In order for them to save you in said hypothetical situation, you’d have to pass a cost-benefit analysis. Trust a psychopath to look out for their own self-interest and attach yourself to that self-interest should you need their assistance.

Psychopaths do not even feel attachment to their parents, much less others. That’s the thing with psychopaths, everything is a game, all of the time. As one would suspect, all this distrust, disloyalty and inability to sympathise makes them very bad long-term partners. Owing to this they have a pronounced tendency to be abusive in relationships because they simply don’t give a fuck about how the other person feels and what their psychological needs are. To a psychopath, the relationship is primarily about them, the other person serves as an accessory whose function is to service the needs of the psychopath. Psychopaths are very effective at picking up women, their short-term sexual strategy is second to none. However in long-term relationships, they absolutely bomb it. It takes a lot of conscious effort and training on the part of a psychopath to raise a somewhat functional family and not fuck it all up with blind rage, sadism and general disconnection towards their partner and offspring.

Psychopathic Investment:

Psychopaths only care about people in two ways: what that person can do for them (Briffault’s Law) and how much time they have personally invested into said person. The longer a psychopath knows you, the more they care for you owing to the amount of time they have spent on you.

Don’t mistake “care” for sympathy, I mean “care” as in a rare display of respect, however the respect is a strange kind of respect absent of emotional connectivity. It’s hard to explain, so I’ll put it like this: say you really like your laptop but one day your laptop ceases to work, you become mad because your laptop is broken, but you’re not sad that your laptop is broken. You took for granted something the laptop did for you and you came to like that, but you don’t actually feel an emotional loss for the death of your laptop. Well that’s how psychopaths are with people. Your death would cause them a problem by removing the supply of whatever it is they have come to rely on you for, and that would make them mad. They are mad that your death creates a problem, not upset that you are dead because they miss you or any other emotional reason you can contrive. Notice the subtle nuance there, it is relevant to understanding the nature of the psychopath. That’s “how they care.” Every way in which they like you is related to how you can make them feel within the moment, as well as how stimulating you are. If you were to disappear, they’d simply look for another version of you to fulfil that role within their lives. Eternally dissatisfied, people are nothing but varying classifications of stimulant to the psychopath.

When you have a psychopath in your life, you have to think differently when you deal with them in order to better relate to them. Being as narcissistic as they are, spending lots of time on you causes them to believe there must be something special about you because they don’t normally give people the time of day. Psychopaths are takers and they thrive on givers, they are parasitic people, and so they tend to place exceptional value on their time rarely doing anything that does not directly benefit them. If you have some trait, quality or use that has allowed you to monopolise much of a psychopaths time, they will ascribe a measure of value to you based proportionately to the amount of time expended on you. In this way, they are quite similar to the neurotypical, except the manifestation of this dynamic is far more ruthless and emphatically pronounced.

Functional relationships with psychopaths generally stem from mutually beneficial outcomes, that is to say, they want to use you for a purpose and likewise, you them. This can be characterised rather simply and innocently, or quite complexly and malevolently. Truly the nature of the quid pro quo transaction depends on the situation you find yourself in. Generalising the machiavellianism of the psychopath is difficult, and so without situational specifics it would be incredibly misrepresentative to attempt generalisation. It takes a certain kind of person to be friends with the psychopath, they are very aloof, uncaring and in need of a consistent stream of stimulation. If you are someone who seeks emotional connectivity, the “strangeness” of the psychopath will alienate you. If you are uninteresting, relatively unintelligent or unremarkable in any way, likewise, you will more than likely be discarded by the psychopath due to a lack of value demonstration.

Psychopathic Pretence & Exposure:

If they’re not actively “pretending to care” a psychopath will never wish somebody good luck, well wish or partake in any of the social pleasantries which come naturally to the majority of us. They have no concern for the well-being of others, so they do not express it. When a psychopath does pretend to care, as rare as it is, it is a sign they like you or are trying to convince you they’re normal due to an ulterior motive. Predominantly it is what the psychopath doesn’t do and doesn’t say that outs them as psychopathic.

Psychopaths are very poor at blending in and “seeming like one of the herd” because they’re easily exasperated by fabricating interest in things they fundamentally do not care for. The pretence wears on them and exhausts them. Furthermore, due to their narcissism they don’t want to “seem like others” because they believe they are better than most and “fitting in” would be lowering themselves. The best way to expose a psychopath pretending not to be one is through a war of attrition. They will only last so long at keeping up the façade before deducing the benefit from maintaining the façade is outweighed by the cost and thus opting to drop their mask. Making a psychopath pretend to care is the ultimate shit test and removes some of their autonomy, much to their own intense displeasure.

In Closing:

If you weren’t born an unsympathetic psychopath, you won’t become one. Glamourising dysfunction is pointless because even if you could somehow manage to induce a state of psychopathy, all you’d really be doing is trading one set of problems for another. You will always have to deal with the threat your capacity for sympathy represents whilst the psychopath has to deal with unending loneliness and an intensely paranoid distrust of everybody.

Relevant Reading:

Buy “The Wisdom of the Psychopaths” in the USA
Buy “The Wisdom of the Psychopaths” in the UK
Buy The Wisdom of the Psychopaths in Canada
Buy “Zero Degrees of Empathy” in the USA
Buy “Zero Degrees of Empathy” in the UK
Buy “Zero Degrees of Empathy” in the Canada

34 comments

  1. I’d suggest that a psychopath would also rationally fear people who are capable of empathy and forming bonds. People are obviously stronger in groups, in societies. A psychopath can *see* that altruism works, but can’t understand *how* it works. Why on earth would anyone rescue a stranger from a burning building? And yet we do, for no reason, and so everyone lives with a degree of safety and assurance that they otherwise wouldn’t have.

    Groups of people who care for one another, or at least who behave with a basic level of altruistic decency with respect to one another, are powerful and therefore dangerous.

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    1. Not really, psychopaths are masters at decifering group dynamics and manipulating them. It is easy enough for a psycopath to have you and your friends at each others throat, if it served their purpose.

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    2. No, I have known two Narcissistic Machiavellian Psychopaths in recent years. They expect to encounter groups and work within groups to gain power. They work to split the group, looking for the weaker members, who they then directly manipulate.

      Interestingly in one case the Psychopath avoided two men in the group I experienced him in. The first man was a frighteningly intelligent businessman, with extensive social skills. The second was the son of a high-level NATO commander, who had grown up with a military background. They in turn were wary of him and would cross-check things the Psychopath had said, with other members of the group.

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    3. Problem is, there is a good deal of psychopathy in almost all group formations, there are also a lot of contrived emotions, for ulterior purposes, you know, like getting to know people so that you can gossip about them to others in the group, and gain social power that way, and then there are the narcissistic group leaders, who are looking for a scapegoat, and the flying monkeys who are only too happy to join in their circus, especially because it allows them to deflect unwanted negative feelings, while they indulge as freely as they can in negative behaviors, oh, but then the aloof person, the one who is wary of emotional involvement, owing to the escapades of the others, well, that person is not necessarily the psychopath in the group, the psychopath will likely be doing their damnedest to entertain and harness attention, while they take on the social responsibility of creating a pecking order, as semi-malicious imbeciles fawn around them, oh wait psychopaths believe that they are superior and more intelligent than everyone else…. Oh, this does get sticky, cough. I suppose if the individual were as intelligent and emotionally connected as everyone else, then they would do what everyone else in the group is doing, finding someone else to be their scapegoat… It is the only Christian thing to do…

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  2. Too true. Too many, included myself fall into the trap of the grass is greener. What we are striving for, however, is social power which comes from adaptability. Beta has a place, psycopath has a place, high energy, low energy. All have places.

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  3. It is not often that I read an article which shifts my entire worldview. This piece has done that for me. Up until very recently, I have struggled with conflicting ideas of whether I am capable of human love. I believed that real human love could not exist simultaneously alongside my lack of empathy. I struggled unsuccessfully to cultivate love in myself, and my relationships up until now have suffered because of it. In the past few weeks, I have begun to gain a sense of catharsis. I have accepted my sociopathy (a term I much prefer to psychopathy, as they tend to be interchangeable these days, and sociopathy is much less stigmatized). I have never been a fully emotionally functional human, but after being drugged throughout much of my youth I woke from my clinically induced stupor to find myself incapable of relating to humanity even in the limited regard that I was capable of previously.

    This article has filled in one of the final pieces of my emotional puzzle. I wish to thank you for that. A majority of this article has hit the nail on the head, at least in my own experience with psychopathy. When I read the comparison you made between a human losing a laptop and a psychopath losing a relationship, I had what you might call an “aha moment”. I realized that I do not need to have empathy in order to develop a fulfilling relationship. True, any relationships I form without empathy and reciprocal caring will end up being far more beneficial to me than to my partner, but so long as I maintain her emotional needs to a certain degree this is not a concern. In short, you have helped me to gain a fuller understanding of what I must do in order to achieve romantic satisfaction in my life. I have struggled with this idea of being incapable of human love for so long, but I never considered the possibility of an alternative within my means. I can have my cake and eat it too. I can develop meaningful relationships without feeling pure human “love”, as it were. By merely enjoying the company of a human female, and cultivating beneficial traits in her, I can instill in myself an emotional relationship satisfaction that might ordinarily come from love. I do not need to suffer the emotional turmoil that love brings to men, nor do I face the failure of reason that often comes along with that love.

    Essentially, this has helped me realize that I can have a fulfilling relationship without empathy. I can have that laptop-style relationship with a woman while still being able to feel emotional satisfaction. If I sincerely enjoy the time I spend around a woman then I will gain fulfillment from that relationship that normally could only be attained through love. I can cultivate an emotional connection inside myself to a pleasant woman without needing to feel the full range of emotions. If I build up a relationship with about a 70/30 percent emotional investment ratio, I can be fulfilled without needing to fear betrayal, as she will be far more significantly invested into the relationship as I am.

    Thank you for the excellent article.

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    1. I have a question for you, if you are still out there.

      When you actively display rage and anger, are you really angry or do you just know that your display is effective in achieving the desired goal of the moment?

      Also, is there ANYTHING that actually hurts you or your feelings?

      One last question, if I may pry. Is there ANY level, or line that you will not cross, in the quest to achieve your goals, think “scorched earth” policy?

      Thank you in advance.

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      1. 1. Both, it’s situation dependent. Sometimes ego/stress overwhelms one, sometimes it can be calculated.

        2. Yes, psychopaths care about their own feelings, they just have no regards for yours unless your feelings need to be managed in order to help them achieve a greater goal.

        3. Not really. Obviously if something fails a cost-benefit analysis it’s not worth doing. Most psychopaths won’t harm animals or children out of principle, but really it depends on the person. Some will do that, and they’re equally resented by psychopaths who wouldn’t. Not all psychopaths are the same, their tendency to use you as a tool rather than treat you as a person is the only real constant. Of course, some of them can disguise such manipulation with a layer of charm, but that takes skill, self-control, patience, and a certain personality. Some are cold and to the point. Some switch between being charming and being cold, the best way to identify them is their complete incapability to demonstrate loyalty. They try nobody they can’t control. If you encounter a really smart one they’ll try to make you think they trust you even though they don’t. Everything is a head game with them.

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      2. “Never trust a psychopath to come and save your life…” Completely untrue, I have come to the rescue of Neurotypicals on several occasions in situations that an NT would never have because they would have been too scared. And what will an NT ever give you back – Ziltch… because they are totally wrapped up in their own inner emotional world.

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  4. If a Psychopath was to read this article, would it be some kind of salvation possible for him? Could he develop a genuine desire to have something real? Could it be enough to step back from his Psychopathic behaviour?

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    1. Imagine it this way: I suppose there are times where you wishing you had no emotion during periods of time that it’d pay to be stoic and composed but at the same time you wouldn’t want to be a psychopath full time. In the same way, a psychopath would fantasize about what others experience for a while but God forbid you’re actually the weak, emotional wreck that everybody else is. It’s pitiful; it’s disgusting; it’s absolutely inferior.

      IllimitableMan described the contempt of the psychopath towards ‘normal’ people and the distaste for how easily controlled somebody can be. In a long term relationship, as soon as they’re completely and hopelessly in love with you, their value goes down the sink and they are discarded right away. A psychopath would wretch at the thought of being that person; It’s utterly putrid.

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  5. Your article describes the behaviour of the psychopath and some of its core manifestations eloquently.

    However, it doesn’t touch upon the real underlying reasons for the psychopathic mentality.. And by that I don’t mean physical brain abnormalities or abusive childhoods (wrt sociopathy,although not a requisite). I mean what these conditions might allow an individual to “see”. Psychopaths are philosophers, really, who live in accordance with their convictions…

    Your overall message – that these unusual persons who provide much allure to the hopelessly insecure – shouldn’t be glamourised.. Is a wise one. Although, By proposing this pseudo-quasi-sociopathy, you contradict yourself. Anchoring sex with hot women, fearlessness and general “winning” with a personality contruct – without considering the true costs living such a life entails – IS glamourising. You don’t dance with the devil for free…and you will NOT succeed with applying the tricks of the game if you don’t first make sure to be well acquainted with the fundamental facets of reality.. Attempts to do so will leave you behaving like a social oddball. Easy to spot and nearly as amusing to mock.

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  6. Hey,
    Illimitablemen could you please explain how can a DT control the lack of stimulation, or find a stable source of stimuli (drugs, videogames and other entertainment doesnt work) . Everyone and everything seems so pointless…

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  7. I want to talk about love.

    You touched on the psychopath’s romanticism of feeling emotion like everybody else, I imagine in much the same way as everybody else romanticizes what it’d feel like to be a psychopath, but you seem to misjudge the seemingly irrational attachment we can possess through a romanticism and idealized view of a person or relationship. A psychopath will obsess; It’s like giving a toddler a fire truck: All he wants to do is play with his new toy. No other toy matters. If you take that toy away from him, he’s going to be pissed off. He’s going to think about it all the time. He might even throw a tantrum. Sometimes the yearning can last a long time, but then he find’s a new toy and at a flick of a switch he’s forgotten all about the fire-truck. What characterizes this attachment style is how quickly/easily it can be severed.

    I also draw contention with you attributing care about people because of their benefit to you as a psychopathic trait. This is the basis of all relationships, psychopath or not. Whether it’s emotional, intellectual or material, every relationship is founded on the person’s selfish desire to exploit whatever trait it is the other person has that benefits them. The difference is psychopaths can admit it to themselves. The reasons aren’t clouded. If you are useful in some way then the psychopath has to make a conscious effort to reciprocate to keep you happy. It’s a quid pro quo. Why is this different to how normal people operate, other than there being no emotional concern for the other person?

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    1. I don’t believe so. It’s neurological. There are not enough advances in science as of current to “cure” psychopathy. Once they know how to artificially implant a device that can stimulate amygdala activity, or get the brain to “fix the damage” itself, there very well could be. We’ll just have to wait and see what the future of medical science holds.

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      1. Who is to say it’s not a simple difference rather than something that needs a cure. Are tall people also in need of cure because they’re not the same as most people, do people of different skin colors also need a cure?
        Some people tend to confuse the people who attribute them a low social value as sociopaths. but they are wrong, they do have empathy, but they rationalize those accusers as inferior for some reason while having respect and empathy for those they consider equal or above them..
        I believe sociopaths are a useful part of a society’s structure in fit proportions.

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        1. “I believe sociopaths are a useful part of a society’s structure in fit proportions.”

          That’s like saying blind people don’t need to be cured because their sharper hearing is useful to society. I don’t want to be useful to you. You are nothing to me. I want to feel.

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  8. Damn this article speaks to me. You have pretty much described everything that goes on inside my psyche. One question to you IM, if i was to ever have children would they have a greater chance of being a psychopath? I wouldnt want to burden my offspring with this trait.

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    1. It is believed there is a genetic element. Any child you have is not going to be a guaranteed psychopath, but they have a higher chance of being one. Think of it like this: a child with one parent who has blue eyes and and the other brown is not guaranteed to have blue eyes. But they do have a chance to be born blue eyed because one of their parents has blue eyes. We know that bar any random mutation that if neither the child’s parents have blue eyes, that the child will not have blue eyes.

      Well psychopathy is the same, you’re pulling the lever on the slot machine every time you have a kid. If you had one child with a neurotypical partner, it may not be psychopathic. If you had 10, there’s a good chance some of them would be psychopaths, or at the very least have a psychopathically inclined disposition because they got your “psychopath gene.”

      Psychologists/biologists/geneticists don’t know what specific genes are responsible for psychopathy (or if it’s the result of a semi-functioning gene,) but if it works in the same way genes typically do, then any child you have may either get your gene (responsible for psychopathy) or your partner’s (which assuming they are not psychopathic, means the child would not be.)

      Of course, if you bred with another psychopath, your child is effectively guaranteed to be a psychopath themselves. If not due to genes, due to how you will both treat your child growing up. Ironically, many psychopaths find other psychopaths attractive because “normal people are boring.” Refer to the article on Lucifer’s Daughter.

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  9. Not sure if you will post this – but its for your own information anyhow.

    Replies to the Paradigm:

    Likewise they feel no sympathy for the plight of others… Such tales are perceived as undue emotional burden.

    The secret why it’s such a burden for us is – WE’RE ACTUALLY LISTENING! And that’s because we don’t have an option. Nearly everything we see/ hear is stored in a pictorial form/ with attached relevant information. If a Neurotypical (NT) is talking about something (that’s of emotional significance to THEM) then all that stuff is inevitably stored in our head. Whereas with NT’s all inputs and outputs are processed by the emotional system, if it deems the information is of no emotional significance then it’s just never stored. Ask an NT the next day what was said and likely they won’t remember a word of it…

    They would abandon you in your hour of need…… Rather ironically anybody who becomes aware of a psychopath in their life…. would….. Quite rationally opt to betray them should a situation demand it.

    So it’s the Psychopaths inability to trust NT’s that causes them to be disloyal – Ha ha that’s NT “logic” for you! Actually NT’s are only loyal to their own emotions and their own exclusive relationships – To understand an NT is to understand that everything is built around their emotional brain and that is entirely centered on SPECIES SURVIVAL. In a threatening situation an NT (like a herd animal) will opt for their survival over everything else and betray their closest friend. In comparison, statistically a psychopath is much more likely to come to come to the aid of a stranger in an emergency. Hence why “Hero Populations” contain a high % of psychopaths.

    If an NT is in love then the drug Vasopressin is released in the brain which increases trust and bonding – Vasopressin is so powerful that it alters reality such that even when a subject is ripped-off (even multiple times) they will still hold trust for that person. A true Psychopath without elevated Vasopressin and Oxytocin will feel no such FALSE TRUST relying instead on cold judgment of the person and situation.

    People are value functions to psychopaths, not emotionally connected personalities who share a spiritual link with them.

    Our DNA is from Neanderthal Hunters rather than the NT Farmers brain so it’s no surprise we don’t feel a connection or spiritual link, because we are no more connected than to any other species. But Psychopaths do feel some connection between themselves. That’s borne out by how many Psychopaths would like to hook up together.

    The longer a psychopath knows you, the more they care for you owing to the amount of time they have spent on you.

    Really that’s not true; we would happily say good-bye to anyone if our locations changed. And in fact, we tend to not like people from our past turning up because we prefer to live in the NOW.

    Psychopaths have a knack for spotting talent, but feeling egotistically threatened by said talent they oft search for or invent some glaring flaw in the talented individual in order to overshadow and vitiate their talent.

    Sounds more like an NT devaluing trait? – we do like talented people and if they work with us, like any staff we see it as our role to Sheep Sheppard them. We construct a mental operational manual for them to ensure smooth running and a good outcome. When they have one of those NT emotional bitch-up moments, it’s our role to get through that and keep them operational. One of the keys to achieving that is not to reacting emotionally back to them.

    The psychopath believes that by engaging in highly emotional situations they will perhaps be able to feel something in context to another

    Psychopaths don’t engage in highly emotional situations quite the opposite we are emotionally FLAT most of the time. We could be annoyed if an NT attacks something we are very focused on, but it’s likely we would just harbor “COLD ANGER” towards them – to be dealt with latter on at a time of our choosing, perhaps, perhaps not.

    Psychopaths are by merit of their condition, incredibly lonesome.

    If we don’t care for humans (unless they hold an interest for us) then we don’t care if they are present or not. We can entertain ourselves very happily on our own. If fact we’d rather be on our own if it means listening to NT’s standard “file dump” about things that are only of an emotional significance to THEM.

    Psychopaths have a propensity to indulge heavily in both alcohol and narcotics.

    Its low ball sociopaths that are likely to indulge in drugs and alcohol to blot out their emotional pain. We don’t have a need to engage in self-medication other then perhaps with some psychopaths that do so through boredom.

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    1. seriously i couldn’t have explained it better. because you see I read the article and thought it was really great in the sense that saw myself in most of the behaviors described above, HOWEVER I didn’t agree with most if not all the explanations provided. Thx for taking the time to express it through my lens lol. I was starting to panic thinking that there is in fact something wrong with me but after reading YOUR comment I`m now back to my regular self, not that it would have changed me in any way. But it always feel good to see SOME can view it the same way that I do let alone USE it to our advantage without being TOTAL A*hole.
      Great post and Excellent Comment

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    2. I have found that people do not remember conversations in the least the next day, when I can remember the conversation word for word years later, simply for having engaged in it. But I do not consider myself a psychopath. As far as emotions go, I do not see why anyone would link emotions with spirituality, especially given all of the emotionally manipulative games and emotionally abusive games that people deliberately engage in. A spiritual person can be highly aloof to their surrounding social environment, while everyone else runs around stirring up all manner of emotional chaos simply in order to exercise their emotions, or in an effort to try to organize their pecking order.

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      1. I was reading psychopath descriptions and reminds me in childhood, aggressive, liar, impulsive, I killed animals, I stole my mother, I remember that I fucking laugh when I saw my cousin crying when his father died in the middle of the burial etc.

        But my mother hit me so much, was so strict with me that today I’m traumatized, neurotic, my adolescence was a trauma, bullying and a harmless and absent father.

        It will be that psychopathy can be cured still in childhood?

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  10. Great read. I was involved with a possible psychopath several years ago on a personal level.
    Was he a psychopath or suffering from narcissistic personality disorder? The two overlap- to this day I guess I will never be sure. After 5 years after our relationship ended, I decided to cut him from my life totally- no Facebook connection, no Christmas card- nothing. We kept in touch minimally over the years- my utility to him, was my connection to another one of his former targets. He is a really awesome man – great tradesmen- employed as a Chef (the food industry is filled with Narcs and psychopaths ) Handsome, very bright- but so lonely and empty.

    The time we spent together began well- but I decided over time I was in a one way relationship- and like all emotional beings yearned for reciprocity. After our breakup I submitted myself to therapy- and over time I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Order- so you had two people with identity issues- one in search of self- and the other with a false self or mask. This encounter was in many ways a gift- it gave me the ability to grow and evolve from whom I was before- begin to develop a more solid sense of self- but also peak into the darker side of humanity.

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  11. This kinda describes me well. When i was young, my father said I was a bit off and he didnt want me medicated, but I never guessed why.
    When I went to school, I was the kid who will use violence. I had anger issues but was emotionally flat. I did not seem to be bothered by things like hunger, embarrassment, danger, the like. I could see through manipulation like writing on the wall from as long as I have been alive.
    My father told me one time when I was mad, I would hit him on the head.
    I remember once when i was about 4, and my stepmother insulted me and she had to physically restrain me to protect herself. She stopped that habit quick.
    I did very well in school. I was relatively stress free no matter what happened. Somehow, I could concentrate on the matter at hand and deal with other stuff when it happened.
    I could be left in charge at home and be counted on to do the right thing. I am not emotional, so I will not listen to your whining or emotional bull shit.
    I did not have an easy life by any means. I had to learn-a lot. I had to change a lot of things.
    Most people will react emotionally to others based on their emotions. I respond based only on their actions and perceived predictions of behaviour.
    Unfortunately, because of emotional baggage, and not having an actual intent, there are not many you can trust to do the right thing.
    I have been let down many many times by people who should have known better.
    I think being called a psychopath is more of a moral judgement than a clinical condition. The only difference is my devotion to my own goals and utter singlemindedness in achieving them with absolutely no emotional considerations. Every man should have that. There are things I consider I have to be capable of, I do whatever it takes. I do not consider emotions or effort. I act as though they do not exist. I have been told by different groups of people that I am one of the most hard-working people ever known. I do not notice how hard I work. I keep myself in good shape.

    I think psychopathy is a moral judgement, not a clinical symptom. Those condemning psychopaths are generally ineffective people and maybe they should stop their whining and get the show on the road. We got enough problems. Stop creating problems for.those who are actually trying to get things done and do something with your life. Thank you.

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  12. Scarier than psychopaths are people empaths to the extreme, i was scared cause i met one who made a terrifying description about myself in a few seconds, things that other people would never find out why i pretend very well. Almost impossible to lie to such people.

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  13. Illimitable Man: Great work here. You said they are stellar at pick-up / short-term dating. Does a psychopath feel approach anxiety?

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