A Most Solipsistic Nature

A Most Solipsistic Nature
“A picture held us captive. And we could not get outside it, for it lay in our language and language seemed to repeat it to us inexorably.” – Ludwig Wittgenstein

1.) Introduction
2.) The Pause In Priority
3.) Communication, Abstraction & Solipsism
4.) Struggle
5.) In Closing
6.) Relevant Reading

1.) Introduction:

Women conflate histrionics with characteristic depth, because to women, depth is defined by interweaving hues of diverse emotional experience and how they relate to one another rather than an understanding of the abstract. Conversely, man defines depth by struggle, knowledge and a capacity for the abstract thought necessary to think critically.

The masculine does not view the incessant cataloguing and processing of one’s emotional history to be particularly interesting or deep. However, this propensity is an intrinsic fundamental of the solipsistic rationalisation process native to women. It is this process by which women build their self-perception. Naturally, the flaw of this process is the dominance of the catalogued emotional narrative and an absence of introspection in regard to it.

The distinction between introspection and solipsism lies in that introspection assumes the external world is the root, attempting to understand where the individual fits in relation to said world. Solipsism assumes the individual is the root, and attempts to understand how the external world fits in with relation to the self. “What I think” becomes “I think that made me feel because…” And so whilst a woman considers it enlightenment to explore every nuance of her emotional palette, men view such fixation as nothing more than infantile self-absorption.

Antithetically, what man views as immature behaviour, woman perceives as mature. To a woman there is nothing more interesting and mature than “understanding herself.” Whilst man desires to understand the world, a woman desires to understand herself. When a woman declares “she needs to find herself,” other than riding a train of exotic men to accomplish the task, what she means to communicate is “I’m leaving to seek nuanced emotional experiences I haven’t felt before.” Eliciting the further unspoken implication “…and I don’t think you can provide those experiences.”

By nature of solipsism, women deem the abstract obtuse and the solipsistic reasonable, whilst man, the contrary; the solipsistic obtuse and the abstract, reasonable. Within the sexual differences into what constitutes human depth, we merely scratch the surface in elucidating how distinct the psychological perceptions of men and women are.

2.) The Pause In Priority:

Free a woman of material dependence, and any polite sensibility or sense of self-constraint flees in an unending pursuit of new emotional luxury. When surviving is no longer an issue, the pursuit of rich and nuanced emotional experiences come to the forefront of a woman’s wants.

Really, a woman’s need for resources is nothing more than an unwelcome interruption of her primary psychological drive, emotional self-discovery. And so the gratitude of a desperate woman provides the perfect guise for solipsistic selfishness, it will make her seem like a good woman; one who cares for others more than herself. But the mere act of provisioning shifts her priorities, for she must no longer behave deferentially to have her material needs met.

Her pursuit of intense emotion is only paused by the urgency of her material needs, it is never vanquished. No wonder then that a woman’s directive is to first seek out a man who can provide, only to later seek a man who can induce emotional intensity should the prior be incapable, or no longer capable of providing it. The boring sycophantic domesticated male is a necessity of bated breath for the woman without wealth, but truly it is the detached, ever alluring, but never quite attainable alpha she truly longs for.

Romance and sex, as distinct as they are, are the culminating opiates of emotional experience, fear and power but the aphrodisiac to wetten the feminine emotional appetite. Therefore in the pursual of unending solipsistic self-discovery, it seems only natural that women would be most permanently drawn to such things, for their ability to provide the most compelling fantastical emotion is unchallenged. It is female nature to learn about herself via the emotional roller coaster, so what better way is there for a woman to research herself other than to pursue romance?

The fixation with romance is not solely part of her biological imperative to produce offspring, but likewise a window into the feminine soul, the need to indulge her most visceral emotivity. And this inclination refuses to cease even when a woman has reproduced countless times. This suggests its presence within the feminine is not a clear-cut evolutionary psychological benefit we can deduce to be a simple manifestation of woman’s biological need to seek out optimum genetic material. Because if it were, a craving for romance, the opiate of solipsism, would diminish if not vanish in women who have birthed multiple children. Instead, we note its persevering intrinsicality.

A 60-year-old woman with 5 children is no less solipsistic and longing for romance than a 20-year-old with zero. She may be less optimistic of the endeavour, but nevertheless it is something she shall crave should she lack it. And I think it not that romance is a solipsistic determiner for commitment and provisioning; as the most sought after romance is always that which is unabashedly obsessed with the woman, not any children she has. Likewise for good measure, such romance is forbidden, often sexually depraved and absent the mundanity of everyday life. Indeed then, the pursuit of emotional intensity is a goal unto itself, one that surpasses all else. Female solipsism goes far beyond a woman’s role as a mother, and if too pervasive, actually undermines her capacity in this role.

3.) Communication, Abstraction & Solipsism:

Much unlike man, who searches for understanding in the external world, a woman’s quest for understanding lies within the emotion of the internal word. Women are not so interested in the quirks and qualities of the abstract world in so much as they are ever perplexed by their emotions.

Where a man’s curiosity lies in how the external world functions and how he can best manipulate it, a woman’s curiosity lies in how her internal world functions and how she can best utilise the external world to manipulate her well-being. Essentially, men are knowledge focused whilst women are self-knowledge focused. Men are curious of the abstract, women are curious of the fluidity and sentiment of the self. Man defines himself in relation to what his observations conclude, woman defines herself in relation to how her observations make her feel.

Women are near constantly preoccupied with their emotions in response to external stimuli. This inhibits external analysis, focussing it internally. Women will communicate how they felt from memory, eliciting further feelings, leading to word-by-word disseminations of how she believes her feelings define her – as she feels them. And so there is this continuous cycle of feelings eliciting further feelings, which a woman then needs to factor in to her overall view of herself. Only with a conclusion rationalised to be emotively acceptable does she find relief. Such a conclusion is rarely ever THE truth, but rather, HER rationalised, chosen truth. A truth that reconciles negative with positive emotion to bring about an internal balance that is completely unconcerned with the abstraction that is objectivity.

As such, the solipsism of women appears to be not just a limitation, but an addiction. An addiction man finds psychologically arduous should he find himself in the not so pretty situation of playing therapist to the ever dissatisfied self-discovering woman. When a woman talks about her feelings, she is defining them as they are brought to the surface and expressed. Women need to talk about how they feel, because although their focus is internal, their process is external. As such, they address external problems from the position of their emotions without even so much a hint of desire to remove said emotional filter. This is the core of what we mean by “women are solipsistic.”

Sanity to man lies in understanding the world, a woman’s sanity lies in understanding herself. A woman who cannot understand herself is fraught with distress, compelled only to seek further self-understanding. Man experiences a similar distress in an inability to understand the world rather than himself, in this we note the similarity yet complete distinctiveness of the sexes. Much unlike the self however, surroundings can be replaced. The self can be influenced, but it is ineludible. As such, a woman cannot escape herself, for she is always herself. The craziest woman is therefore the woman who has no outlet to process her emotions, for her relative sanity is entirely dependent on the process of emoting.

So despite women being stuck in their heads (or should I say hearts?) they speak loquaciously. To process her emotion there is talking, lots of talking. So why does a man stuck in his head tend to focus outwardly and process his observations inwardly, whilst a woman focuses inwardly but processes her observations outwardly, namely, with voluble chatter?

It is a most quirky irony that in a quest to comprehend herself, a woman will speak constantly. It is by merit of solipsism and this constant need for emotional self-discovery that every woman considers herself an expert on herself, and as such, is inclined to talk at great length about herself. In terms of attraction, there is nothing a woman loves more than for a newly acquainted man to tell her something she considers true about herself. A man who seems to know a woman on the emotional level without that woman having to express herself exudes his own enchanting intrigue. By being able to communicate with women on this level, man creates his presence within her solipsistic world. “He just, like, totally gets me!”

This is oft mistaken for narcissism, but should she lack narcissism, such a quality still persists. For not only is self-obsession a product of narcissism, but likewise a product of solipsism. Therefore being that solipsism is intrinsic to women, self-obsession is an unavoidable by-product. Indeed a woman’s most profound hobby is that of her self-interest, chiefly, the catalogued history of emotions she has experienced, how they shape who she is, and which ones are desirable enough to be pursued for re-creation.

To summarise this section:

The emotional world is solipsistic, for it is singularly distinct from individual to individual, like a series of unconnected universes existing simultaneously. The abstract world on the other hand is a shared constant, external, one we all operate and cohabit within. To women, there is no distinction between the emotional and the abstract, for she believes the emotional is abstract. Her instinct is that her inner-world is an abstract world she must constantly process and seek to understand via external communication. To men, the inner world is a solipsistic world. Both men and women have an inner emotional world, but men have less interest in processing the nuances of this world and live their lives mentally more in the abstract world.

4.) Struggle:

Few women play the male game, that is, that depth is a product of hardship, study and self-awareness. To women, self-awareness amounts to nothing more than solipsistic indulgence; this is to experience strong emotion and to then process that emotion via further emoting. The reason women constantly communicate and address their emotion, is because they seek to understand past emotion. And then by understanding past emotion, they experience the sensation of discovery. To experience emotion and process emotion is what a woman considers growth.

Histrionic solipsism is a female simulacrum for depth. Where genuine struggle is not achieved, it will be manufactured. The modern woman believes experiencing a wide range of emotion is what makes her deep and worldly. Women have a propensity for histrionics, because it is through drama and subsequent emotional reflection that a woman evaluates herself as a person. The female mind is characterised by its solipsistic nature, therefore it stands to reason that women intuit their self-awareness rather than deduce it.

5.) In Closing:

The emotional narrative on which a woman’s solipsism is predicated is so disjointed in nature, so very non-sequitur to all but her, that an element of the purpose in a woman’s communication of her feelings appears to be a need for her narrative to be externally corroborated. If we assume this principle is true, it further elucidates women’s need to be understood no matter how unintelligible her line of reasoning.

6.) Relevant Reading:

Exploring Logic & Emotion (Part 1)
Solipsism, Emotion & Arguments


      1. ” Now my charms are all o’erthrown,
        And what strength I have’s mine own,
        Which is most faint: now, ’tis true,
        I must be here confined by you,
        Or sent to Naples. Let me not,
        Since I have my dukedom got
        And pardon’d the deceiver, dwell
        In this bare island by your spell;
        But release me from my bands
        With the help of your good hands:
        Gentle breath of yours my sails
        Must fill, or else my project fails,
        Which was to please. Now I want
        Spirits to enforce, art to enchant,
        And my ending is despair,
        Unless I be relieved by prayer,
        Which pierces so that it assaults
        Mercy itself and frees all faults.
        As you from crimes would pardon’d be,
        Let your indulgence set me free.”

        I’ll wait to embrace it.


  1. Like many of the topics that have been discussed on this blog over time, I get the impression that you’ve overly polarized each genders capacity for various thought processes. The fact that you have such a deep and comprehensive understanding of self perception is evidence for my point – like a pseudo “takes one to know one” situation. I think it’s more fitting to imagine to skewed bell curves representing each mindset with like a cut off limit for each gender. But of course, the each bell curve would have a sharp cut off as each curve approaches 0; Women have a sharp cut off limit for max external-curiosity indulgence, men have a cut off for max self-insight indulgence but that does not mean that a scale of overlaps is non-existent!

    It’s as if you’ve made a point in never making this clarification.

    This is my first reply since first discovering and binge reading early in the summer. I wanted to applaud your deliciously data-heavy writing style; Thanks, you’ve influenced my thinking.


    1. Naturally, everything is on a scale. Intellect, dark triad traits – whatever. If you can imagine it as a human trait, it is probably on a spectrum. You are right, I have polarised the genders as I often do in my works, because not only do I believe this makes the work more interesting, but likewise I believe it to be a more accurate depiction of everyday existence.

      When I polarise something, eg: the masculine and the feminine, if you want to be technical, realise what I am saying is “these traits are considered feminine because women more commonly exhibit these behaviours and therefore, women must centre around a position indicative of this on the behavioural bell curve.” As such, these traits can’t really be considered masculine as although some men will embody these traits, they are outliers of the masculine behavioural equivalent. So yes, it is correct to say “some men are like this too.” It is always correct. But it is inaccurate and dare I say, disingenuous to confuse the commonality of the two. To simplify my sentiment: Most women are like this, most men aren’t. As for my understanding of such things, I do not think I could perceive these things if I was truly solipsistic myself.

      Likewise, most men do not understand women. If we overlapped more behaviourally on the various spectrum/bell curves we all fall on, we would. This suggests the overlap is extremely minimal, eg: feminine homosexuals and heterosexual women overlap cognitively, but heterosexual men and women do not. Even this is a crude explanation, but I am imperfect and cannot concisely explain and account for each and every extraneous variable that makes up the colourful mosaic of human behaviour.

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      1. Mr. Illimitable,

        I think you would agree with what (I think) I originally meant:

        Your discussions make it clear that masculine and the feminine behaviors and thinking protocols stem from the same unconditional elements..

        More specifically, the gender-universal unconscious need for power acquisition/ conservation.

        This includes more explicit gender-universal psychological drives. Avoidance of cognitive dissonance, production of a viable system of gratification delay i.e conscious reform of unconscious habits, etc.

        Humans are self regulated by emotionally relevant data. (e.g Eat good tasting food–> dopamine,etc –> remember how and where).Social/Identity/ Power acquisition data that is actually emotionally relevant comes from other humans feedback. Mirror neurons, allow us to apply our understanding of how others are feeling about how we are feeling for the benefit of reforming our methods of satisfying those universal foundational needs (see: external identities)

        Of course, hormones and physical attributes tend to favor certain means of satisfying said drives, but the gender overlap in understanding/application of other’s feedback is substantial .

        If men were treated and given the same responses to their behaviors that women do, they would hamster, rationalize, and do all of the things that we as men expect from women, and Vice versa.

        My point is that the colorful mosaic of human behavior is mostly (the differing hormone profiles are undeniable) gender neutral until its is influenced by the latest iteration of society is placed into the equation.

        My question to you:

        Do you really think an enclosed society of woman who have never been exposed to modern society would be full of women who behave in the way that today’s society allows?



  2. I would be interested to learn how men and women fit on the Thinking/Feeling scale of the Meyers & Briggs test. Your writing seem to suggest that men will be predominantly Thinking, and women predominantly Feeling, with the tacit belief that Thinking is superior to Feeling. However, my suspicion is that men and women are more broad-spectrum and less polarised than you think.

    It’s interesting, for example, how nearly all religious leaders, e.g. Buddha, Jesus and Mohammed, are men. These are people that were the examplars of compassion. The Buddha was also highly intelligent.

    Perhaps one could say that women are irrational in the sense that they need to fabricate an interpretation of reality in order resolve the cognitive dissonance that they feel. I saw an interesting documentary once, a long time ago, where a journalist, and a variety of other men, stripped down to their underpants, stood on plints as exhbibits, and had a group of women walk around and express their thoughts. One of the men was a professional male model. He was judged to be too cock-sure of himself, and therefore not the kind of person that they might be interested in.

    This was odd, because they made a judgement based on no insight into the model’s real personality. Here’s what I think was really going on: the women probably thought he was unattainable, so had to manufacture a hypothesis in which there was something wrong with him, not with themselves.



  3. I am just extremely impressed with your posts, every one like it’s brothers yet unique at the same time… one of the “manosphere’s” greatest writer…. bravo, I applaud the magnitude and introspection of your articles.

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  4. this solipsism the way you have described it has also in men ?? like look intense experiences to discover yourself or to you feel good?


  5. Men are outside themselves; women are within themselves: this is true of the genital as well as the existential. Astride the world they each lie athwart it to transcend that state. In the discovery of love, ask a man what he loves about his mate and he describes her as such. Ask a woman what she loves about her mate and she describes herself. The presentation turns on the context that founds the answer.

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